We speak from a position of privilege when we judge the failures of others within the context of what is possible for us.
Even something as simple as the resolve we have, or the choices we made to rise above a challenge, comes from a place of assuming that our emotional resilience is the same as theirs.
When we assume that everyone is equal, we deny the human struggle that affects all of us differently.
Something small for one, could be a mountain for another.
And the mountains that some climb every day because of their circumstances, could be overwhelming for those of us who were never faced with such trials.
Comparing our efforts and accomplishments with that of others who are going through similar challenges that we once experienced is an act of arrogance, not support or concern.
If we are sincere in uplifting or supporting others, then we must seek to understand the reality that they are facing, rather than judging them through our view of reality.
After all, isn’t that what we cry about in the silent, dark hours, when we feel misunderstood or unappreciated?
We treat others the way that we treat ourselves.
When we judge ourselves harshly, or have no reason to expect support from those we cherish, we hold similar expectations of others who we find struggling.
We expect them to ‘man up’ or to ‘put on their big girl panties’ and just move on.
That’s how compassion and empathy are lost, and insensitivity becomes the standard by which we view others.
Choose compassion.
Reclaim your humanness.
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