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When your sincerity is tested
Our sincerity is tested when we’re faced with the opportunity to contribute in kindness, while being treated with disregard or ingratitude. But it’s not our sincerity towards others that is tested. It is the sincerity of our convictions about what we hold true as principles to live by. We lose the best of who we…
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Feeding that generational curse
Don’t contribute towards the generational curse that weighs you down by withholding who you are because of ingratitude from those who themselves are at war within themselves. We all have our internal battles that cause us to show up badly at times. When we lose sight of this, we focus on how others show up…
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The burden of self-loathing
Allow me to explain… “I trust more easily those who expose the struggles of their lives, rather than those who live a life of pretend.” Our need to pretend is evidence of self-loathing. “But not those who present their struggles to justify their shortcomings.” Too many preempt being judged harshly about what they know they’re…
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Don’t lose yourself to the chase
No one sets out to chase money or the high life. But many convince themselves that such a lifestyle will earn them the happiness and fulfilment that they desire. Sadly, we easily become distracted by the lifestyle and lose sight of the fulfilment that we seek. What we need emotionally, and how we need to…
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Know why, or else…
I often have to remind myself that it is not the disregard that others show for what I do that matters, it is my need for them to show regard for what I do that distracts me when they are uninterested or condescending. Similarly, it’s not the disrespect, or the lack of affection that gets…
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Reclaim you
There is a belief that a hug fixes everything. It doesn’t. There are times when a hug loses its comfort or its safety because it comes from the very source that keeps causing that pain. Words spoken in anger always cut deeper than any hug can reach. In such cases, a hug is like an…
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Understand before you judge harshly
Before you get upset with someone for not treating you the way that you want them to treat you, consider that what you need may not come naturally to them. Without meaning to, we oppress others when we assume that just because we’re capable of something, they should be too. This is especially true when…
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Judging bad behaviour
I have yet to meet someone who behaves poorly when they feel appreciated. Yet, we’re most often focused on the poor behaviour instead of their feeling of insignificance. The same is true for us. Our anger, bitterness, or rebellion is simply an expression intended to reclaim our significance when significant others treat us as if…
