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More ways to destroy trust…
Our consideration of trust is often limited to promises or follow through on something that was clearly agreed with another. However, trust is broken in many ways, most of which are subtle and often unintended. It’s these subtle breaches that leave us seething with anger or raging with tears while not knowing how to connect…
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Dishonesty is the thief of peace
We focus too much on how others treat us, and too little on how we treat ourselves. Honesty is one of those things that we find distasteful and repulsive when someone withholds it from us, but we overlook it when we do it to ourselves. When we’re dishonest with ourselves, we find ways to justify…
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When your sincerity is tested
Our sincerity is tested when we’re faced with the opportunity to contribute in kindness, while being treated with disregard or ingratitude. But it’s not our sincerity towards others that is tested. It is the sincerity of our convictions about what we hold true as principles to live by. We lose the best of who we…
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Feeding that generational curse
Don’t contribute towards the generational curse that weighs you down by withholding who you are because of ingratitude from those who themselves are at war within themselves. We all have our internal battles that cause us to show up badly at times. When we lose sight of this, we focus on how others show up…
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The burden of self-loathing
Allow me to explain… “I trust more easily those who expose the struggles of their lives, rather than those who live a life of pretend.” Our need to pretend is evidence of self-loathing. “But not those who present their struggles to justify their shortcomings.” Too many preempt being judged harshly about what they know they’re…
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Don’t lose yourself to the chase
No one sets out to chase money or the high life. But many convince themselves that such a lifestyle will earn them the happiness and fulfilment that they desire. Sadly, we easily become distracted by the lifestyle and lose sight of the fulfilment that we seek. What we need emotionally, and how we need to…
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Know why, or else…
I often have to remind myself that it is not the disregard that others show for what I do that matters, it is my need for them to show regard for what I do that distracts me when they are uninterested or condescending. Similarly, it’s not the disrespect, or the lack of affection that gets…
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Reclaim you
There is a belief that a hug fixes everything. It doesn’t. There are times when a hug loses its comfort or its safety because it comes from the very source that keeps causing that pain. Words spoken in anger always cut deeper than any hug can reach. In such cases, a hug is like an…