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Reclaim you
There is a belief that a hug fixes everything. It doesn’t. There are times when a hug loses its comfort or its safety because it comes from the very source that keeps causing that pain. Words spoken in anger always cut deeper than any hug can reach. In such cases, a hug is like an…
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Understand before you judge harshly
Before you get upset with someone for not treating you the way that you want them to treat you, consider that what you need may not come naturally to them. Without meaning to, we oppress others when we assume that just because we’re capable of something, they should be too. This is especially true when…
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Judging bad behaviour
I have yet to meet someone who behaves poorly when they feel appreciated. Yet, we’re most often focused on the poor behaviour instead of their feeling of insignificance. The same is true for us. Our anger, bitterness, or rebellion is simply an expression intended to reclaim our significance when significant others treat us as if…
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The need to be godly
Godliness, like humility, is lost the moment we lay claim to it. It is something that we may exhibit in our conduct or demeanour, but not something that we can directly claim. It is our ability to manifest the attributes of the divine in our character and in our treatment of others without wanting to…
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Peace always starts with you
The next time you find yourself having a disagreement with someone, consider if the way in which you conduct yourself is to demand that they show you due respect or consideration, or are you trying to establish understanding. When we feel taken for granted or invisible in something that is important to us, we’re more…
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A hospital for dented egos
I’ve seen, and experienced first hand, the disaster that awaits when we convince ourselves that the demons that others deal with is our responsibility to resolve. Being kind, compassionate, and even understanding does not mean that we must own the decisions that others have made, especially when those decisions include them choosing to hold on…
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Are you in an abusive relationship…with you?
It’s women’s day in South Africa. A public holiday dedicated to recognising the value and contribution of women in society. My hope for this day is that we find the gentleness and nurturing spirit innate in women, and we give it an opportunity to thrive in our own lives, regardless of gender. Don’t be your…
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Seek understanding. Always.
If you find yourself judging, more than understanding, you’re filled with fear about the future. Not hope. Judgement is not always harsh. But, judgement is always focused on an external standard that we think others respect. External standards give us comfort because we don’t run the risk of making a bad decision by ourselves. If…
