If you find yourself judging, more than understanding, you’re filled with fear about the future. Not hope.
Judgement is not always harsh. But, judgement is always focused on an external standard that we think others respect.
External standards give us comfort because we don’t run the risk of making a bad decision by ourselves. If things don’t go well, we can always say that everyone thought that it was the right thing to do.
More than this, when we live up to a standard that we know others respect, we automatically feel respected. That way, we don’t have to go through the difficulty of earning respect by ourselves.
This mind set conditions is to judge right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse, rather than to seek understanding of why we, or others, may fall short.
This, more than anything else, undermines the quality of the relationships that we have with others, and especially with ourselves.
And remember, seeking to understand bad behaviour doesn’t mean we condone it. It just means that we have a better chance of addressing the reason for it, rather than responding to its symptoms.
If this is something that you or someone close to you is struggling with, reach out. Let’s talk. A fulfilled life is more achievable than it may appear to be at present.
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Seek understanding. Always.
