Do you matter when it matters most?

I often hear about people who are frustrated at not being able to get through to someone.

The most common assumption when that happens is that we’re obviously not important to them, or what we need isn’t important to them.

Sometimes, that may be true. Especially when it comes to those who are not close to us but we have to work with or get along with them for reasons beyond our control.

When we recognise what our role is in someone’s space, we’ll find it easier to choose our moments when our words may be appreciated, versus when silence will be more appropriate.

Even with loved ones.

Assuming that we’re unimportant also assumes that what they need is something that they need from us, let alone something that we can give them. .

That’s the difficult part to accept because of our desire to be everything for those we love.

However, it’s a distraction from what’s really going on in their space.

Without meaning to, we make their needs about us while losing sight of what they need.

Sometimes, seeking to understand before assuming to be insignificant may increase the significance that is felt by both, whereas demanding significance diminishes the significance of both.

The fear of insignificance has probably created more insecurity than insecurity itself.

If you’re convinced of your value, acceptance or validation from others, while still important, will not have an unhealthy impact on you when they’re not expressing it in the way that you need.

It always starts with you.

Own Your Life.

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