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To know…
When you take out the murder weapon and gently and lovingly caress its edges, knowing that it disembowled the most dedicated soul that breathed joy into you, after they left you for the bitterness that sullied their miserable soul. When you can still pick up that blade and treat it with tenderness, and stare emptily…
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Don’t trade your virtues for vices
Don’t withhold the beauty of your spirit just because there is no one around to appreciate it. Be who you are, and let others be who they choose to be. The expectation of being treated the way we treat others is what causes much bitterness and anger. It’s not worth it. Give without the expectation…
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Expecting hope
Expectations are simply hopes with a sense of entitlement. The reason for our entitlement to the fulfilment of our hopes are many. Most often, they’re based on what we contributed towards others. Sometimes we want that contribution reciprocated because we don’t want to allow others to treat us unfairly, or to take us for granted.…
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The forgotten village idiot
This essay has been playing on my mind a lot lately. Covid-19 has revealed the true nature of many, which only served to reinforce this notion. Who puts a smile on the face of the village idiot? The saddest part of this essay is that most who read the title thought it to be humorous.…
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Blind rage
Sometimes we get so caught up in our anger at the world that we lose sight of the fact that our anger feeds the very same cycles that we’ve grown to despise. Don’t get angry. If you can influence positive change, do it. If not, walk away. Insisting on rage after you’ve realised that you…
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The Elephant in the Room: Entitlement
I attended an interesting event recently. It was focused on creating a space for men to discuss their role in furthering the progress of feminism, or at the least, creating equal opportunity spaces for women to succeed in traditionally male-dominated domains. For example, corporate careers, public service, sporting codes, and more. The discussion resulted in…
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Build, Maintain, or Destroy
The choice to improve our state has always appeared to be a default setting for human nature. Just like the baby that learns to crawl before learning to walk and then run, adults also seek constant progress with the aim to achieve more comfort or fulfilment in their lives. The nature of this world is…
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Expectations and Ingratitude
I sometimes find myself taking offence when someone does not fulfil my rights. I mean, it’s my rights, so why shouldn’t I get offended if they abdicate their responsibility in the process? But then I felt that familiar twinge I usually feel whenever I know I’m being deliberately arrogant. It’s a twinge that causes me…
