Tag: mindfulness

  • That self-loathing demon

    That self-loathing demon

    Ingratitude for the self is reflected in how much time we spend self-loathing. But self-loathing is disguised in many creative ways. The above list of 10 common points is only the tip of the iceberg. Self-loathing is rarely, if ever, a result of our current circumstances, and almost always a result of how we felt […]

  • Raging for love

    Raging for love

    Nothing destroys more than ingratitude, and ingratitude for the self is expressed through self-loathing. But self-loathing is disguised in many ways, the most common of which is anger. Anger is a defence mechanism that distracts attention away from what we feel inadequate about. It demands that we be taken seriously when we have no reason […]

  • I see me in you

    I see me in you

    We judge others the way we judge ourselves. The less aware we are of our self-judgement, the more rigid we will be in insisting on the accuracy of our assumptions about others. The more compassionate and understanding we are in our efforts to improve ourselves, the more space we’ll allow for others to recover from […]

  • The shame within

    The shame within

    Good advice sometimes feels like a threat because it prompts us to acknowledge a flaw that we feel ashamed of. It’s like putting in your best effort to create a piece of art, and then having someone come along and innocently suggest that you should’ve tried this or that to enhance it further. No matter […]

  • Dishonesty, the destroyer

    Dishonesty, the destroyer

    The profundity of the verse from the Qur’an that says that if you are grateful, Allah will increase you, resonates strongly through every theme of life. It is through gratitude that good is created, harm is kept at bay, and we are connected to what feeds our soul. Therefore, what destroys good must be the […]

  • The shame within

    The shame within

    You know that awkwardness that you feel when someone says something that you know is right but you’re not ready to hear it? Or when a sincere advisor or significant other points out something you’re doing that isn’t helpful or good for you, and you get defensive about it? Those are hints at the shame […]

  • Settling for a hint of life

    Settling for a hint of life

    How we see ourselves is reflected in the choices that we make in life. Not what is obvious about those choices, but what we’re trying to achieve through those choices. Unfortunately, most are unaware of the second part. That underlying need that drives the choices that we make. When we lose sight of that need, […]

  • Who defines your worth?

    Who defines your worth?

    When our self-worth is low, we convince ourselves that we deserve pity and support for the state we’re in, because rising above it seems too daunting. But it’s unlikely that we’ll realise that it’s a low self-worth driving such behaviour. Instead, we’ll be convinced that the most important thing in the world is for the […]