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Judge, as you would like to be judged

When we behave badly, we pacify ourselves by focusing on what we intended, or why it was understandable for us to behave that way.

When others treat us badly, we’re more inclined to assume that it is a true reflection of how little we mean to them, or how malicious they are.

The moment we judge someone else’s intentions to be bad without knowing for certain what they intended, we’re projecting our value system on them, and then holding them accountable for it.

Crazy, right?

When we assume the worst of someone, it’s because we are assuming what would have driven us to behave that way, and then believing that it must be true for them as well.

Such assumptions prevent us from reaching understanding because it results in us expecting others to defend what we insist is true about them, rather than giving them the opportunity to explain themselves.

We judge others as harshly or as kindly as we judge ourselves. That’s assuming that we’re honest with ourselves.

When we’re dishonest with ourselves, we’ll be inconsistent in how we judge others.

Those whose favour we want, we’ll judge kindly. While those who cannot serve our needs, we’ll judge harshly.

That’s how we lose ourselves to our need for validation.

It always starts with you.

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Zaid Ismail

Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.

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