Your dignity is yours to claim

Did you notice how some people, when faced with soul destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it.

If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity before you find reason to respect yourself, you’re doing life back to front.

Expecting recognition of your humanness from the world is like expecting your tormentor to become your mentor.

It’s irrational.

Dignity is not bestowed, it is claimed!

It is undignified to ask to be treated with dignity because that means that your dignity is dependent on how others treat you.

It means that it’s dependent on others agreeing that you’re deserving of dignity.

You either maintain your dignity in the face of them being undignified towards you, or you trade your dignity for inclusion or validation.

However, be sure that you’re offering what you’re demanding from others.

Expecting people to treat you with respect and dignity while you treat them harshly or dismissively is hypocrisy, and hypocrisy is the opposite of dignity.

As always, you cannot give what you don’t have.

If you lack self-respect, you’re likely to demand respect from others so that you can feel better about yourself, while ignoring the fact that you not only treat others with disrespect, but you also treat yourself the same way.

If you lack mindfulness of who you are in moments when your patience is tested, you’ll feel compelled to respond the way that you think they deserve, rather than being able to consciously choose who you want to be in that moment.

It always starts with you.

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