Gratitude is not the first step

Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it. Gratitude escapes us when we don’t respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving. It escapes us when we assume that we’re entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome. It…

Invest purposefully in your life

Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want. It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices. Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life? Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that…

The understanding seeker

Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness. It’s the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we’re not heard. Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed. Rather than…

Exhale. Peace is within reach.

Wisdom is the re-finding of innocence. We’re born innocent, but then life happens. Almost imperceptibly, our innocence wanes, and our disappointment in life replaces it. Focused on remedying our justified gripes with this world, we lose sight of our innocence that once brought us peace. Our life then becomes a struggle to regain that peace,…

To be loved…truly

Three things that make us whole… To be seen… Beyond the facade. To have the essence of who we are, known to those we trust and hold dear. To be heard… Not only when we cry out, but also when we speak gently of the troubles in our heart. To be loved… For more than…

The value of values

One of the paths to insanity is to try to reason around someone else’s actions or behaviour by assuming that their value system is the same as yours. This includes people who come from the same culture, tradition, ethnicity, and even family as you do. Our value system may be informed by a common framework…