We cannot give what we don’t have.
This is a simple truth that cannot be denied.
When we realise what this means for the behaviour that we display towards others, we’ll realise what it says about how we feel about ourselves.
When we take ourselves for granted, we feel entitled to what others do for us out of sincerity on their part, and not obligation.
When we believe we’re unworthy, we’ll treat others as if they need to earn our favour or be grateful for us making time for them.
When we are ungrateful for who we are, we’ll find it impossible to connect with true appreciation for what we have or what we receive.
And so it goes.
But, we always need to remain significant or relevant, because being invisible is the worst feeling ever.
So we develop elaborate coping mechanisms through personality traits and mannerisms that endear us towards others.
Those who don’t see our self-loathing become our targets for ‘niceness’, while those who push us to be sincere and authentic are viewed as enemies.
All because we carry a shame within us about ourselves that they remind us of, so we demonise them while convincing ourselves that those who don’t call us out on our bad ways, or don’t see beyond the facade that we’ve created, are in fact our sincere advisors and friends.
Self-worth is never about what others think of you. That’s why it’s called SELF-worth.
It’s about what you think of yourself.
It always starts with you.
And when you blame others for how you feel about yourself, you create even more distance between who you are and who you want to be.
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The demon of self-loathing
