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Do you remember you?
Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the hopelessness of others. Sometimes, we lose ourselves to the failed expectations of life. And sometimes, we lose ourselves because we thought it was our failings that earned us pain, while oblivious to the fact that it was in fact our success that threatened the ones we loved. In these,…
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To be loved
To be seen… Beyond the facade. To have the essence of who we are, known to those we trust and hold dear. To be heard… Not only when we cry out, but also when we speak gently of the troubles in our heart. To be loved… For more than how we make others feel, but…
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Do what’s right, or else…
When raised with fear and compliance as the tool to ensure good behaviour, or religious subscription, we create validation-seeking individuals whose willingness to compromise on what is right will be driven by social acceptance. Instilling values in our children, or living by our own values, must be grounded in a substantial appreciation for why it…
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Cyclical abuse
At first, we remain in a bad relationship because we truly believe in the sincerity of the claims of our partner to want to improve, or to overcome what they’re struggling with. After some time, if we’re not careful, our inability to get them to follow through will convince us that we’re not a good…
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Are you grateful for you?
Trying is something that you do when you’re unsure of your ability to do it. Trying relates to the process of developing the skills or understanding to accomplish something, and not to the outcome itself. When we try to do something, it means that we don’t believe that we’re capable of doing it yet. Otherwise,…
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The destruction of self-deprecation
In our efforts to subdue our ego, many resort to self-deprecation. Sometimes we put ourselves down to test if anyone will be willing to disagree with us, thereby hoping to receive acknowledgement or appreciation that would otherwise not be forthcoming. At other times, we put ourselves down because we try to convince ourselves that we…
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Gratitude is the sister of faith
When faced with trials, there are too many who surrender to coping with such trials instead of persevering to overcome them. Purposeful perseverence is called for when we find ourselves in situations that are weighing us down. No matter how little our resources or ability to influence the outcomes, using that little that we have…
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Enjoying the deferral of death
“When we go through life waiting for our struggles to be recognised, to be seen as the walking wounded, or the ones that survived, we become defined by that survival. We become survivors. Survivors don’t enjoy the sweetness of life. They simply enjoy the deferral of death.” From The Egosystem in the chapter titled Recognise…
