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The belief that people are toxic is self-serving.

The belief that parents are toxic is a sign of ingratitude.

The belief that others are not allowed to change how they behave towards you when you don’t honour what is important to them is entitlement.

The belief that what is important to us is more important than those who raised us is probably the closest thing to a toxic trait that we’ll find.

Societies that have withstood the test of time are the ones who honoured their elders and embraced the wisdom that was passed down to them.

Adapting that wisdom to solve contemporary problems is the failing of the current generation of parents and children.

People, not just parents, withdraw from relationships when they feel rejected, betrayed, dishonoured, disrespected, taken for granted, and more.

If you hold your parents to that standard of supposed toxicity, be sure to apply the same definitions to your own behaviour.

If you truly understood the effort, self-sacrifice, compromise of dreams and aspirations, and duress that a present parent must overcome to show up as a parent, you might understand why betrayal of trust, disrespect, or rejection hurts them enough to want to withdraw from the life of the child that they spent their life serving up to that point.

It’s fashionable these days to judge parents harshly while believing that the new generation has a better understanding of what’s needed to make life work.

Sadly, the current state of society proves otherwise.

How does your judgement of the people who raised you stand up to the scrutiny of the ‘toxic’ label that you’re so willingly throwing around these days?

You will be tested by that which you judge others about. Be careful.

Arrogance is a slippery slope.

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