Master patience

Remembering to hold on to hope, and to abandon my expectations of others has always been my saving grace for my sanity and my dignity.Expectations, whether legitimate or not, are rooted in a sense of entitlement to receive what we need from others.Expectations are key to a healthy relationship, because when we can trust another [...]

Destroying the one we love

When we look at ourselves with harshness or pity, we find reason to protect ourselves and others from what we see.We convince ourselves that we are a burden or a curse to those who deserve better than what we have to offer.Or, we convince ourselves that we won't be able to bear them leaving, so [...]

Claim your humanness

My daughter looked quite distressed when she asked me this question over the weekend."What drives people to be so cruel to animals, like skinning them alive, or abusing them for profits?"The first thought that came to mind was this. We only lose our humanity when we feel less than human.The truth is, we only lose [...]

Be purposeful

Be the one who acts with purpose and conviction, and leave greatness to take care of itself.The moment you're focused on who you're attracting, or how you appear to others, you're distracted from your purpose.Be purposeful. And connect with the value of who you are and what you wish to create in the lives of [...]

Perspective rules

Perspective defines our reality.Taking the worst from an experience doesn't diminish the good that it contains. It simply denies us the benefit that is waiting to be experienced.The opposite being true too. Focusing on the benefit reduces the impact of the bad that we experienced.Maintaining a healthy balance between the two keeps us grounded. Going [...]

Contaminating the self

Self-worth is contaminated when we try to define it by the way we think others perceive us.Whether their perception is correct or not is irrelevant.The fact that their perception has more sway over our self-worth than our perception of ourselves is what determines the difference between a healthy self esteem, and an unhealthy one.Many struggle [...]