Father’s day. It might be one day of the year for others, but for father’s, every day is father’s day.
For those father’s who had to figure it out by themselves.
For those who are prevented from being fathers.
For those who think that they’re not enough.
And of course, for those women who had to step in for the sperm donors that didn’t step up.
Every day is your day, because you understand why you’re blessed to be able to shape the characters of innocent souls to be the best version of you.
To the sperm donors who think that their insecurities, or their needs are more important than showing up, consistently, for their children, I pray that you realise what harm you’re causing for yourself, as well as those innocents, by wallowing in self-pity instead of owning your shit.
Happy father’s day. If you were blessed with a guiding hand, and gentle wisdom to prepare you for your role as a father, make this day a celebration of the one who gave you such a wonderful start in life.
And use your blessings to pay it forward. This world needs it.
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Exhale. Peace is within reach.
Wisdom is the re-finding of innocence.
We’re born innocent, but then life happens.
Almost imperceptibly, our innocence wanes, and our disappointment in life replaces it.
Focused on remedying our justified gripes with this world, we lose sight of our innocence that once brought us peace.
Our life then becomes a struggle to regain that peace, sometimes further contaminating our innocence in that effort.
Until, one day, quite by chance, we realise that peace lies in reconnecting with our innocence.
And innocence lies in relinquishing our justified claim for justice or retribution.
Our path then shifts from striving for peace, and instead, discovering why life happened the way that it did.
In discovering the why, the disappointment and bitterness recedes, and the space once occupied by innocence becomes available once more.
Thus, innocence is allowed back in, not because we pursued it, but because we allowed it to return.
Exhale, beloved. The breath you’ve been holding in, waiting for justice, is better spent exhaling the toxins that cloud your heart.
Let your heart rise. It knows how. We just need to stop weighing it down with expectations of those whose growth is not aligned with our own.
Exhale, beloved. A breath of peace awaits you.
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Your perspective is your choice
Perspective is a choice, not an inheritance.
Improve your awareness of why you believe what you believe, and it will be possible to consciously choose what resonates with your personal value system, and discarding what doesn’t.
When we lose sight of why we hold the perspectives that we do, and those perspectives create a conflict within us, we feel an increase in stress and anger without always understanding why.
At those times, it’s easy to explain our emotional state by connecting it with our perspectives that are being challenged.
However, responding from a position of anger or defence because of a perceived attack on what we believe to be true is a defence mechanism.
We would have no reason to defend that which we believe is based on an objective truth.
The only way to achieve such a level of confidence in our perspectives and beliefs is by improving our self awareness, and thereby improving our ability to critically assess what we stand for, and why.
This will go a long way towards finding balance in life, and knowing which battles are worth fighting, and which are not.
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Don’t let fear win
If you’ve been raised on a diet of fear and compliance, it is inevitable that your choices will reflect your fears, and not your dreams
Fear destroys hope and replaces it with futility.
In the face of futility, we resort to compliance, because compliance provides us with familiarity.
Familiarity tethers us to rituals, traditions, and behaviours that feed the cycle that sustains the power of fear.
That is, the cycle of compliance at all costs.
When compliance becomes the objective, blind following becomes the method, and critical thinking is set aside in favour of inclusion.
The need for inclusion destroys dreams, breaks hearts, and damages souls, leaving in its wake a field of martyrs who surrender their joy in the face of futility, not realising that it is fear that breeds futility, and not overwhelming odds.
Be courageous, brave soul. Self-imposed martyrdom is not the only path to peace. In fact, it defeats that very goal.
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Tears
Tears hold no value if left to dry on their own.
It’s the gentle touch that wipes it away
That fulfils its yearning
Be gentle with yourself, beloved
The world mocks the extraordinary
Because ordinary is safer for meek souls
(a snip of things to come in my new novel, Taqdeer, A Dance With Destiny)
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To be loved…truly
Three things that make us whole…
To be seen… Beyond the facade. To have the essence of who we are, known to those we trust and hold dear.
To be heard… Not only when we cry out, but also when we speak gently of the troubles in our heart.
To be loved… For more than how we make others feel, but to be loved for what we need in return, without having to claim it.
In that order, because a voice without an identity is not a voice. It’s only a whisper in the wind.
A face without a voice is only window dressing, or a trophy. And not a complete being.
And love… Love without a reciprocal embrace…an embrace of what we hold within, as well as what we willingly give, is an empty love that taints towards bitterness, rather than beauty.
Love beyond lust or infatuation is rare. True love is never abandoned.
I see you. I hear you. I love you. Three of the most valuable gifts you could ever give. But, you cannot give what you don’t have. For this reason, you must first see, hear, and love who you are, before you will be able to share it with another.
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Save yourself from regrets
I believe that among the great deathbed regrets will be the realisation that we never truly showed the world who we are.
It’s the what-ifs and if-onlys that cause more regret and heartache than any bad decision.
Bad decisions are made with good intentions, yet we always choose to remember the negative outcome, rather than celebrate our innocence and sincerity for trying.
We do this because we’re more focused on what others think of us, than we are about what we know to be true about ourselves.
This bias against ourselves is one of the roots with which ingratitude takes hold in our life.
When that happens, we become martyrs in our own mind, as we focus on everything that didn’t work out, while losing sight of the beauty and blessings that we have.
Living up to your convictions, despite society, is what will provide you with peace and fulfilment when you need it most.
That is, in those final moments when you look back at the sum total of your life and wonder if you made the best of it, or did you only focus on the worst of it?
Redefine what peace means to you. It is always beyond just the absence of disagreement or hostility. Peace lies in being true to yourself, and appreciating the opportunities for growth that such conviction creates in those around you.
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Saving my insanity
Sometimes I write to share my insanity, but sometimes I write to save it.
When everything about the world feels unnatural, sanity offers no relief.
Besides, like Vonnegut said, “A sane person, when compared to an insane society, will appear insane.”
I have often considered myself that lone voice of sanity, and in that assumption, I found myself to be insane.
Fulfilment lies in finding one who will embrace such insanity with me.
Despite the search being over, the insanity remains unfulfilled.
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