Father’s day. It might be one day of the year for others, but for father’s, every day is father’s day.
For those father’s who had to figure it out by themselves.
For those who are prevented from being fathers.
For those who think that they’re not enough.
And of course, for those women who had to step in for the sperm donors that didn’t step up.
Every day is your day, because you understand why you’re blessed to be able to shape the characters of innocent souls to be the best version of you.
To the sperm donors who think that their insecurities, or their needs are more important than showing up, consistently, for their children, I pray that you realise what harm you’re causing for yourself, as well as those innocents, by wallowing in self-pity instead of owning your shit.
Happy father’s day. If you were blessed with a guiding hand, and gentle wisdom to prepare you for your role as a father, make this day a celebration of the one who gave you such a wonderful start in life.
And use your blessings to pay it forward. This world needs it.
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Category: Self Worth
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Happy Father’s Day
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Exhale. Peace is within reach.
Wisdom is the re-finding of innocence.
We’re born innocent, but then life happens.
Almost imperceptibly, our innocence wanes, and our disappointment in life replaces it.
Focused on remedying our justified gripes with this world, we lose sight of our innocence that once brought us peace.
Our life then becomes a struggle to regain that peace, sometimes further contaminating our innocence in that effort.
Until, one day, quite by chance, we realise that peace lies in reconnecting with our innocence.
And innocence lies in relinquishing our justified claim for justice or retribution.
Our path then shifts from striving for peace, and instead, discovering why life happened the way that it did.
In discovering the why, the disappointment and bitterness recedes, and the space once occupied by innocence becomes available once more.
Thus, innocence is allowed back in, not because we pursued it, but because we allowed it to return.
Exhale, beloved. The breath you’ve been holding in, waiting for justice, is better spent exhaling the toxins that cloud your heart.
Let your heart rise. It knows how. We just need to stop weighing it down with expectations of those whose growth is not aligned with our own.
Exhale, beloved. A breath of peace awaits you.
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Don’t let fear win
If you’ve been raised on a diet of fear and compliance, it is inevitable that your choices will reflect your fears, and not your dreams
Fear destroys hope and replaces it with futility.
In the face of futility, we resort to compliance, because compliance provides us with familiarity.
Familiarity tethers us to rituals, traditions, and behaviours that feed the cycle that sustains the power of fear.
That is, the cycle of compliance at all costs.
When compliance becomes the objective, blind following becomes the method, and critical thinking is set aside in favour of inclusion.
The need for inclusion destroys dreams, breaks hearts, and damages souls, leaving in its wake a field of martyrs who surrender their joy in the face of futility, not realising that it is fear that breeds futility, and not overwhelming odds.
Be courageous, brave soul. Self-imposed martyrdom is not the only path to peace. In fact, it defeats that very goal.
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Saving my insanity
Sometimes I write to share my insanity, but sometimes I write to save it.
When everything about the world feels unnatural, sanity offers no relief.
Besides, like Vonnegut said, “A sane person, when compared to an insane society, will appear insane.”
I have often considered myself that lone voice of sanity, and in that assumption, I found myself to be insane.
Fulfilment lies in finding one who will embrace such insanity with me.
Despite the search being over, the insanity remains unfulfilled.
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Yearning for a simple life
Life is simple, but it’s not easy.
It becomes complicated when we look for the easy way out.
Doing the right thing is often complicated by our concern for the consequences with those around us.
The greater our emphasis on those consequences, the more complicated life becomes because we have that much more to consider before we hold true to our convictions.
Often, it’s the easiest way to lose sight of our convictions, or finding reason to compromise it until it becomes an empty shell of what we once believed to be sacred.
A simple life, by definition, would lack such complexity.
But in that lies the demand for courage and clarity of thought.
The clearer our thinking, the easier it is to muster up our courage.
Courage is therefore contaminated by an unhealthy fixation on potential outcomes.
Worse still, by preempting outcomes and changing our convictions to avoid conflict, we deny others the opportunity to grow by protecting them from the truth that we hold within us.
Thus, life threatens to be complicated, and unfulfilled, because what we express on the outside ceases to resonate on the inside.
And finally, this opens the door for a bitterness or regret that can no longer be expressed because we surrendered our peace for a painful compromise.
Hold on to your truth, and allow others the space to deal with the awkwardness of their insecurities as they slowly learn to embrace a new understanding.
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Judge me fairly
How often do we build pedestals for people and then judge them for sitting on it?
Judgement is inevitable. It’s how we make sense of our world.
But are we aware of the basis of our judgement?
When we judge anyone or anything, it’s based on our past experiences with troubled souls, and not on the present moment.
The moment we shift our attention to the present moment, we’ll find ourselves seeking to understand, rather than to judge.
That understanding will allow us to shift the basis of our judgement in future, because it allows us to test the knowledge that we gained from our past.
The moment we avoid understanding, we’re responding to the fear of reliving a painful experience, rather than creating a new experience.
Oh, gentle soul, many moments of beauty and joy are lost because of such fear.
Sometimes, an entire lifetime of joy can be discarded because we lose sight of the fear that drives us, and believe it to be our conviction to protect ourselves from a cruel world.
Slow down, beloved. Breathe. You’re in this moment because you rose above your past. Let that be the pedestal from which you look to your future.
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The beauty of perfection
The beauty of perfection escapes the bitter heart.
Bitterness is the toxin that we hold on to after we experience a betrayal of our trust in another.
Sometimes that trust is so dear, that we hold on to the poison of its mishandling to protect ourselves from ever being vulnerable to such hurt again.
Sadly, in doing so, we also deny ourselves the opportunity to experience the beauty that may be the remedy to heal the wound of that unkind betrayal.
Thus, we anchor ourself in the same past that we wish we could forget, or undo.
Inevitably, the ones who offer the beauty that we need to breathe fully again are the ones who receive the caustic treatment intended to protect us from such future pain.
Without realising it, we pay the pain forward, and become part of the cycle that stole our innocence by destroying the innocence of another.
Break the cycle, beautiful soul. Break the cycle. It will raise your station above the toxic one so that you won’t find yourself looking at the world from their vantage point any longer.
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Allow healing to begin
Don’t wait for someone to speak of your pain before you allow your wounds to heal.
Your wounds will fester and taint everything around you as you look for reason to feel appreciated for the struggle that you have endured, or may still be enduring.
You may even convince yourself that your struggle is important enough to be noticed by those important enough to you.
But, while waiting for them to notice your pain, you suffer.
You stop noticing what is being tainted by your festering wound.
And each time you glare at them, looking for evidence of understanding, and only sometimes finding sympathy instead, you look within and notice that sympathy is only ever a dressing to cover the wound, but never to heal it.
Sympathy only provides a comfortable space in which to nurture the wound, but doesn’t cure it.
A wound caused by betrayal can only be healed through an accepting embrace.
An embrace of everything you were before being wounded, and an embrace that loves everything you are capable of being despite your wound.
An embrace that sees you beyond your wounds, and reconnects you with every innocent belief that you held true, deep within, before that unkind cut gouged your soul.
There is beauty and peace beyond that wound. But only if you allow its healing to be administered by a heart other than the ones who betrayed you.
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