True misery doesn’t love company.
It decays the soul in silence.
When someone is complaining, it’s because they still have hope that someone cares enough to listen or respond.
Or even to empathise.
When they give up on these three things, they go silent because they have grown to accept that no one else cares, or understands the state that they’re in.
Too often we see their silence and assume it to be acceptance of their struggles or challenges, meanwhile it often symbolises the slow death of dreams, hopes, and ultimately, a life.
Silence is the silent killer, more than rage.
Listen with both ears and your heart.
Pay attention to the silent ones.
Your noise of ingratitude may just be drowning out their silence of pain.
Find the balance between living loud and loving sincerely.
The one without the other will smother people closest to you.
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Tag: selfrespect
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The silent ones
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Self-imposed prisons of our mind
We imprison ourselves each time we restrain our natural expression because we’re afraid that it won’t be appreciated, or celebrated.
Our need for approval or validation soon becomes our greatest crutch in life, until eventually it becomes our prison.
We decorate its walls with images and scraps that honour the past, sometimes recalling moments of joy, but often also anchoring us in moments of pain.
We hold those mementoes up as trophies and garlands that need to be revered by others before we’re willing to set them back down, believing that unless someone else knows our pain, we cannot let it go.
Our need to be comforted about the aches and losses of the past is not because we need to be comforted, but because we need to feel as if someone cares for us…for what we’re hurting about.
It’s not always the hurt that’s important. Often, knowing that someone cares that we’re hurting, and that they care enough to want us to stop hurting, is what shackles us to our past, because letting it go also means that we have no way to test if we’re significant to those around us.
The prisons that protect us from experiencing a beautiful life are often just a single moment away.
Sadly, we most often wait for someone else to create that moment of release for us before we’re willing to love ourselves enough to create it for ourselves.
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Take stock, and reconnect
Stepping back and taking stock requires more than just an arrest of the ego.
It requires a desire to return to a point of sincerity and authenticity in our lives when we were filled with hope about the future, after finding ourselves filled with a longing for the past instead.
Arresting the ego becomes easier if we believe that what we stand to gain is more valuable than having to swallow our pride.
But sometimes, pride is all that defines us.
If you find yourself in that space, know that you’ve abandoned your true self in favour of how you wish to be perceived by others.
Sometimes, pride pushes us to follow through on a bad decision because it sucks to give our enemies something to mock us about.
You know what sucks more?
Living a crappy life because you didn’t want to give your enemies a single moment to mock a bad decision.
Own Your Shit. Own Your Life.
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Failure is not a group sport
When you find reason to sit back and lick the wounds of your ego, remember this.
No one will ever be as invested in your success as you are.
The sooner you own your life, the sooner you’ll be able to enrich the lives of those around you.
It’s easier to fail collectively, than to fail alone.
Setting out on a path of your own demands a level of courage and conviction that is erased from your life when you live according to the whims and weaknesses of those around you.
Too often we lack the courage to stand strong when we go against the grain, and then blame family or society for not supporting us in our wishes to change the world.
Turn your wishes into action or else accept that you are defined by your fears and not your convictions.
Resisting this reality will negatively affect your health and your happiness.
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Be more than your past
Like they say, every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future.
Your past will only ever define your future if you allow it.
They also say that the past may be blemished, but the future is still perfect.
There is a reality between all this idealism that we can’t escape, and that is the impact of the poor decisions that we may have made before.
But don’t let that define any more than your accountability to make it right.
And you must make it right or else you drag your past with you into the future.
Make amends as best as you can, and focus on the road ahead.
Those that support you must be cherished on that journey, and those that don’t must be respected because we can never dictate to others how they must accept or forgive our past mistakes.
Just because we may have chosen to move on doesn’t mean that they are ready to do the same.
Accept this, and be better. You can’t change your past, but you can redefine who you want to be in future.
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Don’t be your own enemy
You undermine yourself when you doubt your ability to accomplish something for no reason other than fear.
When you allow the uninformed opinions of others, or their disrespect to define how you feel about yourself, you undermine yourself.
When you settle for less because you believe you’re unworthy of better, you undermine yourself.
Each time you shy away from being who you believe you are capable of being, you undermine yourself.
If you find yourself doing these things, don’t complain when you feel like you’re being taken for granted.
You’ve effectively told others that it’s OK because of the way you treat yourself.
Treat yourself with kindness and commitment before you can expect others to do the same.
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Don’t blame destiny
Most often, it is our belief in what we deserve that limits us more than what we actually deserve or are capable of achieving.
It’s like waiting up all night to witness an amazing sunrise only to give up as the first streaks of dawn appear and then convince ourselves that it was our destiny not to see the sunrise.
No. Destiny is the sum total of the choices that you make with the opportunities that present themselves to you.
If you’re too distracted to notice those opportunities, or lack the courage to embrace it, that’s your choice, not destiny.
Destiny is blamed for more failures than our failure to act.
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It starts and ends with gratitude
Many struggle with achieving a sense of fulfilment in their lives because they have yet to appreciate, with sincerity, the value that they hold within themselves.
We only make ourselves truly available in a relationship, romantic or otherwise, if we believe that who we are will be valued by others.
The irony is that gratitude for who we are is needed before we see fit to share anything of ourselves with others, while sharing the same is the first step towards experiencing the gratitude of fulfilment.
Such conundrums are common in our efforts to live a life of purpose.
Purpose is not found in the acquisition of valuables for ourselves, but rather in the creation of value for others.
I think in there lies the secret to experiencing any sense of peace in this lifetime.
When we protect ourselves from the possibility of rejection, we deny ourselves the very fulfilment we need to feel complete, and therefore create opportunities for bitterness or regret to take hold in our lives.
It all starts with gratitude, and fulfilment is sealed with gratitude.
Be grateful for how your journey shaped you into who you are, so that you stop holding others accountable for your happiness.
[This was a difficult thought process to articulate. Hope it makes sense.]
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