Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want.
It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices.
Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life?
Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that connect with your soul?
The difference has a profound effect on your sense of peace and well being.
Things only thrive if we nurture it. Nurturing is not always an act of kindness.
Sometimes, nurturing is feeding a toxic cycle without realising it, or validating untoward behaviour by actively engaging with it.
Emotional mindfulness connects you with the present moment so that you may make more informed investments about the outcomes of your life.
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Invest purposefully in your life
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The understanding seeker
Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness.
It’s the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we’re not heard.
Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed.
Rather than fight to be heard, or to be acknowledged, choose your battles.
Be sure that what you’re fighting for is what you want to have in your life, and not just because you refuse to go quietly.
When you find it impossible to get through, to make your point, or to establish reason, it’s a sign that you need to pause and understand better what it is that you’re dealing with.
When you pause to understand, you’ll allow yourself a chance to decide if the fight is worth it, and if it is, you’ll create space for yourself to recognise a better way to achieve your objective.
Like the prophetic advice teaches us, don’t get angry. The moment you find your anger rising, it’s a sign that you need to step back, and seek to understand better, before continuing to respond.
Peace.
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Happy Father’s Day
Father’s day. It might be one day of the year for others, but for father’s, every day is father’s day.
For those father’s who had to figure it out by themselves.
For those who are prevented from being fathers.
For those who think that they’re not enough.
And of course, for those women who had to step in for the sperm donors that didn’t step up.
Every day is your day, because you understand why you’re blessed to be able to shape the characters of innocent souls to be the best version of you.
To the sperm donors who think that their insecurities, or their needs are more important than showing up, consistently, for their children, I pray that you realise what harm you’re causing for yourself, as well as those innocents, by wallowing in self-pity instead of owning your shit.
Happy father’s day. If you were blessed with a guiding hand, and gentle wisdom to prepare you for your role as a father, make this day a celebration of the one who gave you such a wonderful start in life.
And use your blessings to pay it forward. This world needs it.
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Exhale. Peace is within reach.
Wisdom is the re-finding of innocence.
We’re born innocent, but then life happens.
Almost imperceptibly, our innocence wanes, and our disappointment in life replaces it.
Focused on remedying our justified gripes with this world, we lose sight of our innocence that once brought us peace.
Our life then becomes a struggle to regain that peace, sometimes further contaminating our innocence in that effort.
Until, one day, quite by chance, we realise that peace lies in reconnecting with our innocence.
And innocence lies in relinquishing our justified claim for justice or retribution.
Our path then shifts from striving for peace, and instead, discovering why life happened the way that it did.
In discovering the why, the disappointment and bitterness recedes, and the space once occupied by innocence becomes available once more.
Thus, innocence is allowed back in, not because we pursued it, but because we allowed it to return.
Exhale, beloved. The breath you’ve been holding in, waiting for justice, is better spent exhaling the toxins that cloud your heart.
Let your heart rise. It knows how. We just need to stop weighing it down with expectations of those whose growth is not aligned with our own.
Exhale, beloved. A breath of peace awaits you.
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Your perspective is your choice
Perspective is a choice, not an inheritance.
Improve your awareness of why you believe what you believe, and it will be possible to consciously choose what resonates with your personal value system, and discarding what doesn’t.
When we lose sight of why we hold the perspectives that we do, and those perspectives create a conflict within us, we feel an increase in stress and anger without always understanding why.
At those times, it’s easy to explain our emotional state by connecting it with our perspectives that are being challenged.
However, responding from a position of anger or defence because of a perceived attack on what we believe to be true is a defence mechanism.
We would have no reason to defend that which we believe is based on an objective truth.
The only way to achieve such a level of confidence in our perspectives and beliefs is by improving our self awareness, and thereby improving our ability to critically assess what we stand for, and why.
This will go a long way towards finding balance in life, and knowing which battles are worth fighting, and which are not.
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Don’t let fear win
If you’ve been raised on a diet of fear and compliance, it is inevitable that your choices will reflect your fears, and not your dreams
Fear destroys hope and replaces it with futility.
In the face of futility, we resort to compliance, because compliance provides us with familiarity.
Familiarity tethers us to rituals, traditions, and behaviours that feed the cycle that sustains the power of fear.
That is, the cycle of compliance at all costs.
When compliance becomes the objective, blind following becomes the method, and critical thinking is set aside in favour of inclusion.
The need for inclusion destroys dreams, breaks hearts, and damages souls, leaving in its wake a field of martyrs who surrender their joy in the face of futility, not realising that it is fear that breeds futility, and not overwhelming odds.
Be courageous, brave soul. Self-imposed martyrdom is not the only path to peace. In fact, it defeats that very goal.
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Saving my insanity
Sometimes I write to share my insanity, but sometimes I write to save it.
When everything about the world feels unnatural, sanity offers no relief.
Besides, like Vonnegut said, “A sane person, when compared to an insane society, will appear insane.”
I have often considered myself that lone voice of sanity, and in that assumption, I found myself to be insane.
Fulfilment lies in finding one who will embrace such insanity with me.
Despite the search being over, the insanity remains unfulfilled.
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Be exceptional
If we focus on the exception, we’ll realise what is possible.
If we focus on the norm, we’ll surrender to what we think is inevitable.
This is at the heart of mediocrity versus excellence.
There are those that look at trends and try to follow, and those that focus on value and pursue a better path. Wanting to lead doesn’t drive their agenda.
Leadership is a natural consequence of acting with conviction in wanting to realise the value that you believe will benefit others.
Stop being distracted by the norms you see around you so that you’ll be able to recognise the potential beyond it.
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