Just as beauty is born of love, so too is bitterness born of loss.
I wonder what of the troubles of this world is caused by broken hearts, rather than wilful greed?
It is the sense of loss, or inadequacy in the eyes of those most cherished, that our worst behaviour comes to the fore.
But there is value even in that.
If not for still holding on to hope, such an expression of rage or harm would not have any purpose.
It is only when we still have hope of our pain being consequential that we choose to share our discontent with the world.
Therefore, it is not the raging lunatic that is most hurt, but the silent one who has no hope of being seen.
Sometimes their silence is the build up to the storm of destruction that they need to unleash in their final attempt to be heard.
But often, it’s the abandonment of dreams that perhaps the world really needed.
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Tag: selflove
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A bitter ache
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It’s not always betrayal
Betrayal is not always a result of harsh words, lies, or cruel action.
I’ve found that the deepest cuts were always from the silence when words were needed, the restrained sincerity when an embrace was called for, or inaction from those when I looked expectantly towards them while recalling the times they drew on my energy in the moments when I barely had enough to sustain my own spirit.
And I often wonder how many may look at me and feel the same way.
We’re often so focused on what we’re not getting from others, that we don’t pause to consider what they may not be getting from us either.
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The impossible dream
When home is elusive, the world feels ominous.
A journey to a place you’ve never been holds the promise of peace, despite never having known what peace feels like.
It’s a cry of the soul, in tones and words that no one seems to understand.
But you keep crying, and you keep trying, because something deep inside convinces you that there must be more than this.
If only it was possible to know why this never felt enough, it would be so much easier to figure out why home is still worth searching for.
The impossible dream that is too important to abandon, but too wholesome to feel worthy of it.
It truly is a long longing, for something we imagine would finally reach the deep, dark recesses of our being, and offer it the light it has been yearning since our first breath.
Will the yearning remain even after our last breath?
Or is hope for fools who dare to dream despite living a recurrent nightmare?
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Willingly obliged
This is most true for religious subscription and cultural heritage, but applies to every relationship in our life.
Choice inspires willingness because a choice is driven by our belief in the benefit of our contribution towards others.
Obligation inspires contempt because it is most often associated with the threat of a negative repercussion.
What drives our choices and our sense of obligation therefore must be considered when we find ourselves growing angry at the thought of non-compliance from others, or the expectation of compliance from ourselves by others.
It is quite possible to choose consciously to serve an obligation. But that choice must be done willingly and not under duress. Duress turns a choice into an unwilling obligation.
Fear has a limited life span. Therefore, the moment we establish compliance with a lifestyle or behaviour through fear, we must prepare ourselves for the inevitable backlash.
Live consciously. Love deliberately. And serve without obligation.
Perhaps, beloved, in that lies the secret to experiencing peace in this lifetime.
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Be gentle…to you
When you treat the vulnerable or the gentle ones with contempt, you create the same monsters that made you.
The moment that we realise what we assume to be our nature is in fact a product of our upbringing, we’ll be able to make conscious decisions about who we want to be.
Sometimes, we place so much emphasis on respecting our emotions that we prevent ourselves from seeking answers as to our emotional response.
Humanness is not found in being infinitely understanding, but in balancing that understanding with decisive and purposeful action.
Striking that balance becomes more difficult when raised on a diet of self-doubt and fear.
That self-doubt and fear drives us towards paying forward what we may have received at the hands of similarly struggling souls.
Mindfulness about this state is the only chance of breaking that cycle of harshness or pain.
Be kind to yourself. Begin by seeking to understand what shaped you into who you are, so that you may be able to choose consciously who you want to be.
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Dare to dream
When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable.
But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us.
Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination.
Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the journey offers, and give up the pursuit of a seemingly impossible destination.
Today is a good day to take that step towards that impossible dream that you’ve been courting with for so long.
No time like the present, right?
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You are more than how you look
Taking pride in the colour of your skin or ethnicity distracts you from your humanity.
Our humanness, our gentleness, our inclination towards kindness – these are all part of our natural state.
It’s our need to be associated with significance or superiority that distracts us from this, and replaces it with the fear of being inadequate.
When we lose sight of the fear, responding from a place of fear becomes our new normal.
Everything that threatens the source of our significance – that is, our skin colour, religion, cultural roots, etc. – then feels like a threat to our sense of self.
Thus, we feel the anger, resentment, or blind rage that rises when we feel undermined because of the colour of our skin, or any other association that makes us feel significant.
In the absence of an awareness of who we are, it is inevitable that our external attributes will be all that feeds our self worth.
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The absent parent
Even an absent parent is still parenting.
It’s then on the shoulders of the present one to compensate for that.
Sometimes, the absence of someone has a greater impact on us than the presence of others.
This is especially true for parenting.
The absent parent leaves the child with feelings of abandonment, insignificance, and a low self-esteem, to name a few.
Worse still, it tortures them with the hope that it could be better if only…while distracting them from embracing the life and love that they have.
It’s that unfulfilled hope and the failed expectations that become the burden of the parent who is present, who is still committed to the wholesome development of the child, to mitigate the impact of that negative influence.
While it’s true that the children suffer, not enough is done to recognise the impact on the single parent.
Because the human is often forgotten behind the role or the label that we assign to them.
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