When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable.
But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us.
Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination.
Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the journey offers, and give up the pursuit of a seemingly impossible destination.
Today is a good day to take that step towards that impossible dream that you’ve been courting with for so long.
No time like the present, right?
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Tag: motivation
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Dare to dream
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Gratitude before regret
It’s impossible to be grateful for a blessing that you don’t acknowledge.
Like believing that we’re entitled to certain outcomes because of our effort or contribution.
Or believing that we’re entitled to be treated a certain way because we believe we’re a good person.
Whether those entitlements are true is not the issue.
The issue is that we are less likely to treat with due care and appreciation those things that we believe we are entitled to have in our lives.
Anything that is neglected in care or attention withers and eventually dies.
That’s how relationships deteriorate, and how our quality of life diminishes when we’re not paying attention.
Our absence of gratitude is therefore most often acknowledged only after the regret of the loss sets in.
Be mindful of what you have before you no longer have it.
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Gratitude is not the first step
Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it.
Gratitude escapes us when we don’t respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving.
It escapes us when we assume that we’re entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome.
It escapes us when we take for granted what we have, because we’re always focused on what we don’t have.
To appreciate the effort, the struggle, or the commitment needed to create anything of value, we need to first recognise the sacrifice, the hard work, the consistency, and the commitment needed to develop the skills to gather the resources needed to achieve it.
For this reason, we all have something that we give to others for which they should be grateful, but sadly, we cannot insert gratitude into their hearts for it.
We can only contribute the best of who we are, and appreciate why we may not always be appreciated.
We cannot give what we don’t have. The ungrateful one lacks gratitude for who they are and what they have.
Expecting gratitude from such a being is therefore foolhardy, no matter how significant they may be in your life.
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The understanding seeker
Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness.
It’s the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we’re not heard.
Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed.
Rather than fight to be heard, or to be acknowledged, choose your battles.
Be sure that what you’re fighting for is what you want to have in your life, and not just because you refuse to go quietly.
When you find it impossible to get through, to make your point, or to establish reason, it’s a sign that you need to pause and understand better what it is that you’re dealing with.
When you pause to understand, you’ll allow yourself a chance to decide if the fight is worth it, and if it is, you’ll create space for yourself to recognise a better way to achieve your objective.
Like the prophetic advice teaches us, don’t get angry. The moment you find your anger rising, it’s a sign that you need to step back, and seek to understand better, before continuing to respond.
Peace.
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Save yourself from regrets
I believe that among the great deathbed regrets will be the realisation that we never truly showed the world who we are.
It’s the what-ifs and if-onlys that cause more regret and heartache than any bad decision.
Bad decisions are made with good intentions, yet we always choose to remember the negative outcome, rather than celebrate our innocence and sincerity for trying.
We do this because we’re more focused on what others think of us, than we are about what we know to be true about ourselves.
This bias against ourselves is one of the roots with which ingratitude takes hold in our life.
When that happens, we become martyrs in our own mind, as we focus on everything that didn’t work out, while losing sight of the beauty and blessings that we have.
Living up to your convictions, despite society, is what will provide you with peace and fulfilment when you need it most.
That is, in those final moments when you look back at the sum total of your life and wonder if you made the best of it, or did you only focus on the worst of it?
Redefine what peace means to you. It is always beyond just the absence of disagreement or hostility. Peace lies in being true to yourself, and appreciating the opportunities for growth that such conviction creates in those around you.
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The value of values
One of the paths to insanity is to try to reason around someone else’s actions or behaviour by assuming that their value system is the same as yours.
This includes people who come from the same culture, tradition, ethnicity, and even family as you do.
Our value system may be informed by a common framework or point of reference.
But, unless everyone complies 100% with that framework, each interpretation or implementation of those values becomes a unique value system, as unique as each individual.
When we don’t recognise these differences, we insist on compliance rather than understanding in the way each person adopts these values in their lives.
That’s the root of misunderstanding: The assumption that because we have shared values on some key issues, we have shared values on all issues.
Thus, relationships and homes are broken because of our expectations of compliance rather than our efforts towards understanding.
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Yearning for a simple life
Life is simple, but it’s not easy.
It becomes complicated when we look for the easy way out.
Doing the right thing is often complicated by our concern for the consequences with those around us.
The greater our emphasis on those consequences, the more complicated life becomes because we have that much more to consider before we hold true to our convictions.
Often, it’s the easiest way to lose sight of our convictions, or finding reason to compromise it until it becomes an empty shell of what we once believed to be sacred.
A simple life, by definition, would lack such complexity.
But in that lies the demand for courage and clarity of thought.
The clearer our thinking, the easier it is to muster up our courage.
Courage is therefore contaminated by an unhealthy fixation on potential outcomes.
Worse still, by preempting outcomes and changing our convictions to avoid conflict, we deny others the opportunity to grow by protecting them from the truth that we hold within us.
Thus, life threatens to be complicated, and unfulfilled, because what we express on the outside ceases to resonate on the inside.
And finally, this opens the door for a bitterness or regret that can no longer be expressed because we surrendered our peace for a painful compromise.
Hold on to your truth, and allow others the space to deal with the awkwardness of their insecurities as they slowly learn to embrace a new understanding.
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Judge me fairly
How often do we build pedestals for people and then judge them for sitting on it?
Judgement is inevitable. It’s how we make sense of our world.
But are we aware of the basis of our judgement?
When we judge anyone or anything, it’s based on our past experiences with troubled souls, and not on the present moment.
The moment we shift our attention to the present moment, we’ll find ourselves seeking to understand, rather than to judge.
That understanding will allow us to shift the basis of our judgement in future, because it allows us to test the knowledge that we gained from our past.
The moment we avoid understanding, we’re responding to the fear of reliving a painful experience, rather than creating a new experience.
Oh, gentle soul, many moments of beauty and joy are lost because of such fear.
Sometimes, an entire lifetime of joy can be discarded because we lose sight of the fear that drives us, and believe it to be our conviction to protect ourselves from a cruel world.
Slow down, beloved. Breathe. You’re in this moment because you rose above your past. Let that be the pedestal from which you look to your future.
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