Even an absent parent is still parenting.
It’s then on the shoulders of the present one to compensate for that.
Sometimes, the absence of someone has a greater impact on us than the presence of others.
This is especially true for parenting.
The absent parent leaves the child with feelings of abandonment, insignificance, and a low self-esteem, to name a few.
Worse still, it tortures them with the hope that it could be better if only…while distracting them from embracing the life and love that they have.
It’s that unfulfilled hope and the failed expectations that become the burden of the parent who is present, who is still committed to the wholesome development of the child, to mitigate the impact of that negative influence.
While it’s true that the children suffer, not enough is done to recognise the impact on the single parent.
Because the human is often forgotten behind the role or the label that we assign to them.
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Category: Life Coaching
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The absent parent
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Invest purposefully in your life
Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want.
It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices.
Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life?
Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that connect with your soul?
The difference has a profound effect on your sense of peace and well being.
Things only thrive if we nurture it. Nurturing is not always an act of kindness.
Sometimes, nurturing is feeding a toxic cycle without realising it, or validating untoward behaviour by actively engaging with it.
Emotional mindfulness connects you with the present moment so that you may make more informed investments about the outcomes of your life.
*Connect with me to find out how I can help you to achieve this. Video sessions available at very reasonable rates.
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Tomorrow is not promised
Too often we remind others that tomorrow is not guaranteed, yet we live our lives as if we have all the time in the world to make that next big decision, or to do right by others.
If tomorrow is not guaranteed, neither is your next breath.
When our thoughts about life remain philosophy, and our reality remains detached, we create a tension within our soul that only we can remedy.
We live life either looking for what is possible, or we live it by looking for why everything is a struggle.
Whichever of the two you seek, you will find.
Mindfulness will offer you the opportunity to take the best of the present, so that the yoke of the past won’t weigh you down with worry for the future.
You owe it to yourself and to those who look to you for inspiration. But if you’re not living in the present moment, you won’t notice them either.
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Be exceptional
If we focus on the exception, we’ll realise what is possible.
If we focus on the norm, we’ll surrender to what we think is inevitable.
This is at the heart of mediocrity versus excellence.
There are those that look at trends and try to follow, and those that focus on value and pursue a better path. Wanting to lead doesn’t drive their agenda.
Leadership is a natural consequence of acting with conviction in wanting to realise the value that you believe will benefit others.
Stop being distracted by the norms you see around you so that you’ll be able to recognise the potential beyond it.
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Don’t be the victim oppressor
Every decision we take has an impact on us, and on those around us.
If we only consider one side of that equation, we’ll either become victims by denying ourselves of what we need in favour of pleasing everyone else, or we’ll become oppressors by pleasing ourselves and denying the rights of everyone else.
Finding a balance between the two brings us closer to experiencing joy in our lives.
When we find that we deny ourselves of what we need, it’s because we’re waiting for someone else to convince us that we’re worth it.
When we deny others what they need from us, we’re convinced that they don’t deserve us.
Both mindsets lead to an emptiness that is hard to understand.
Fulfilment and joy in life is found in striking a healthy balance between the two.
If you’re struggling to find that balance, check out my books, or connect with me for affordable life coaching sessions.
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Blind rage
Sometimes we get so caught up in our anger at the world that we lose sight of the fact that our anger feeds the very same cycles that we’ve grown to despise.
Don’t get angry.
If you can influence positive change, do it. If not, walk away.
Insisting on rage after you’ve realised that you are unable to influence positive change is an indulgence of your ego and not a righteous protest.
It’s not worth it.
The rage within often blinds us from the oppression that we impose on others.
The rage starts to build up after we’ve experienced oppression at the hands of others, but if left unchecked, it eventually clouds our judgement as we seek vengeance from anyone that reminds us of those who treated us badly.
When you find a reason to rage at every assumed threat, peace becomes elusive and bitterness takes over.
Find a balance between righting the wrongs and inspiring others to rise above your own experiences, otherwise all you’ll be left with is rage and no fulfilment, nor peace in this lifetime.
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We all need different things at different times in life.
It’s part of the growth cycle.
From beginning to realise what we’re really dealing with, to finding ways to cope with it, to choosing to rise above it, and finally, to no longer be defined by what was once weighing us down.
These are important stages to be mindful of when choosing your coach.
Choosing poorly could lead you in the wrong direction, or make you complacent about where you are.
The most important choice you can make in life is choosing between wanting to feel better about where you’re at, versus choosing to rise above your current challenges.
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