Wishing it’s a sunny day when it’s raining is not going to make the sun come out.
Leaving your umbrella behind is therefore an act of foolishness, not optimism.
Optimism without evidence or action, or both, is a delusion we use to cope with an unpleasant reality.
Wishing away reality only allows that unpleasantness to fester and gain momentum, because natural cycles that are not disrupted by deliberate action will continue to grow in strength.
Let your optimism be based on your belief in the effectiveness of your efforts, not in wishes that have no support in becoming real.
And faith, of course. But faith is the basis of optimism, and faith, without effort, is simply wishful thinking.
Start by taking action, and then have faith that your action will create opportunities to achieve your goals.
Do this, and optimism will take care of itself.
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More than a wish
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Dare to dream
When we pursue the impossible, we achieve the unbelievable.
But, we’re often so distracted by how impossible our goal might appear, that we lose sight of everything that its pursuit offers us.
Fortune cookie wisdom tells us that it’s the journey that matters, not the destination.
Yet, we lose sight of the growth that the journey offers, and give up the pursuit of a seemingly impossible destination.
Today is a good day to take that step towards that impossible dream that you’ve been courting with for so long.
No time like the present, right?
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Gratitude is not the first step
Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it.
Gratitude escapes us when we don’t respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving.
It escapes us when we assume that we’re entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome.
It escapes us when we take for granted what we have, because we’re always focused on what we don’t have.
To appreciate the effort, the struggle, or the commitment needed to create anything of value, we need to first recognise the sacrifice, the hard work, the consistency, and the commitment needed to develop the skills to gather the resources needed to achieve it.
For this reason, we all have something that we give to others for which they should be grateful, but sadly, we cannot insert gratitude into their hearts for it.
We can only contribute the best of who we are, and appreciate why we may not always be appreciated.
We cannot give what we don’t have. The ungrateful one lacks gratitude for who they are and what they have.
Expecting gratitude from such a being is therefore foolhardy, no matter how significant they may be in your life.
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Save yourself from regrets
I believe that among the great deathbed regrets will be the realisation that we never truly showed the world who we are.
It’s the what-ifs and if-onlys that cause more regret and heartache than any bad decision.
Bad decisions are made with good intentions, yet we always choose to remember the negative outcome, rather than celebrate our innocence and sincerity for trying.
We do this because we’re more focused on what others think of us, than we are about what we know to be true about ourselves.
This bias against ourselves is one of the roots with which ingratitude takes hold in our life.
When that happens, we become martyrs in our own mind, as we focus on everything that didn’t work out, while losing sight of the beauty and blessings that we have.
Living up to your convictions, despite society, is what will provide you with peace and fulfilment when you need it most.
That is, in those final moments when you look back at the sum total of your life and wonder if you made the best of it, or did you only focus on the worst of it?
Redefine what peace means to you. It is always beyond just the absence of disagreement or hostility. Peace lies in being true to yourself, and appreciating the opportunities for growth that such conviction creates in those around you.
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Embrace your greatness
There is greatness in all of us.
Problem is, if we don’t get recognition from others about our greatness, we assume the greatness is not so great, instead of realising that they’re too distracted to notice.
That’s when we give up on that greatness and instead embrace something trivial that will attract their attention.
Then, when we get their attention, we assume we’ve achieved something great when in fact we just did something that is momentarily popular.
And that’s how we fail to change the world.
We grow old feeling like we were cheated out of greatness, but forget that we traded our greatness for acceptance and validation.
Be greater than that. You’ve got it in you to do it.
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Who says you’re not enough?
If you need to remind yourself that you’re enough, you convinced yourself that you weren’t enough.
No one can do that to you without your agreement or consent.
Reminders, or affirmations have their place in getting us back on track when we become distracted from the truth of who we are.
The moment we need to do either beyond a moment in time, it means that we stopped believing what was once a truth, and now need to find reason to convince ourselves that we’re capable of being that way again.
While there may be truth in that thought process, it also means that we’ve yet to believe that we are what we think we could be, and we therefore convince ourselves that it’s not true in the present moment, but may be true at some future point.
Again, this way of thinking simply reinforces the belief that we’re not who we want to be.
The question therefore is, by whose standard are we judging ourselves when we see ourselves as being less than who we think we are?
If we were judging ourselves by our own standard, our reflections would be an assessment of our growth, rather than a need to convince ourselves that we’re something or someone that we’re not.
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Wisdom with purpose
Acquiring knowledge without implementing it is like hoping to quench your thirst while standing in the rain.
Seeking to understand is great, but only if we apply that understanding in the way we treat others.
Similarly, acquiring technical knowledge may feed our fascination, but fulfilment lies in using that knowledge to create something of substance that offers value to others.
I think it was Al Ghazzali that said, “Why accumulate more knowledge if you don’t practice on the knowledge that you have?”
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