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You are more than how you look
Taking pride in the colour of your skin or ethnicity distracts you from your humanity. Our humanness, our gentleness, our inclination towards kindness – these are all part of our natural state. It’s our need to be associated with significance or superiority that distracts us from this, and replaces it with the fear of being…
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Gratitude is not the first step
Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it. Gratitude escapes us when we don’t respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving. It escapes us when we assume that we’re entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome. It…
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The absent parent
Even an absent parent is still parenting. It’s then on the shoulders of the present one to compensate for that. Sometimes, the absence of someone has a greater impact on us than the presence of others. This is especially true for parenting. The absent parent leaves the child with feelings of abandonment, insignificance, and a…
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Empathise
Empathy is expressed when we desire for others what we wish to have for ourselves. Sometimes, it’s something we have, and we hope that others will be able to enjoy the same value and benefit that we enjoy from it. Sometimes, it’s what we don’t have, yet we hope that we may be able to…
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Invest purposefully in your life
Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want. It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices. Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life? Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that…
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The understanding seeker
Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness. It’s the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we’re not heard. Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed. Rather than…
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Happy Father’s Day
Father’s day. It might be one day of the year for others, but for father’s, every day is father’s day. For those father’s who had to figure it out by themselves. For those who are prevented from being fathers. For those who think that they’re not enough. And of course, for those women who had…
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Exhale. Peace is within reach.
Wisdom is the re-finding of innocence. We’re born innocent, but then life happens. Almost imperceptibly, our innocence wanes, and our disappointment in life replaces it. Focused on remedying our justified gripes with this world, we lose sight of our innocence that once brought us peace. Our life then becomes a struggle to regain that peace,…
