Sometimes I write to share my insanity, but sometimes I write to save it.
When everything about the world feels unnatural, sanity offers no relief.
Besides, like Vonnegut said, “A sane person, when compared to an insane society, will appear insane.”
I have often considered myself that lone voice of sanity, and in that assumption, I found myself to be insane.
Fulfilment lies in finding one who will embrace such insanity with me.
Despite the search being over, the insanity remains unfulfilled.
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Tag: ownyourlife
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Saving my insanity
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The value of values
One of the paths to insanity is to try to reason around someone else’s actions or behaviour by assuming that their value system is the same as yours.
This includes people who come from the same culture, tradition, ethnicity, and even family as you do.
Our value system may be informed by a common framework or point of reference.
But, unless everyone complies 100% with that framework, each interpretation or implementation of those values becomes a unique value system, as unique as each individual.
When we don’t recognise these differences, we insist on compliance rather than understanding in the way each person adopts these values in their lives.
That’s the root of misunderstanding: The assumption that because we have shared values on some key issues, we have shared values on all issues.
Thus, relationships and homes are broken because of our expectations of compliance rather than our efforts towards understanding.
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Yearning for a simple life
Life is simple, but it’s not easy.
It becomes complicated when we look for the easy way out.
Doing the right thing is often complicated by our concern for the consequences with those around us.
The greater our emphasis on those consequences, the more complicated life becomes because we have that much more to consider before we hold true to our convictions.
Often, it’s the easiest way to lose sight of our convictions, or finding reason to compromise it until it becomes an empty shell of what we once believed to be sacred.
A simple life, by definition, would lack such complexity.
But in that lies the demand for courage and clarity of thought.
The clearer our thinking, the easier it is to muster up our courage.
Courage is therefore contaminated by an unhealthy fixation on potential outcomes.
Worse still, by preempting outcomes and changing our convictions to avoid conflict, we deny others the opportunity to grow by protecting them from the truth that we hold within us.
Thus, life threatens to be complicated, and unfulfilled, because what we express on the outside ceases to resonate on the inside.
And finally, this opens the door for a bitterness or regret that can no longer be expressed because we surrendered our peace for a painful compromise.
Hold on to your truth, and allow others the space to deal with the awkwardness of their insecurities as they slowly learn to embrace a new understanding.
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Judge me fairly
How often do we build pedestals for people and then judge them for sitting on it?
Judgement is inevitable. It’s how we make sense of our world.
But are we aware of the basis of our judgement?
When we judge anyone or anything, it’s based on our past experiences with troubled souls, and not on the present moment.
The moment we shift our attention to the present moment, we’ll find ourselves seeking to understand, rather than to judge.
That understanding will allow us to shift the basis of our judgement in future, because it allows us to test the knowledge that we gained from our past.
The moment we avoid understanding, we’re responding to the fear of reliving a painful experience, rather than creating a new experience.
Oh, gentle soul, many moments of beauty and joy are lost because of such fear.
Sometimes, an entire lifetime of joy can be discarded because we lose sight of the fear that drives us, and believe it to be our conviction to protect ourselves from a cruel world.
Slow down, beloved. Breathe. You’re in this moment because you rose above your past. Let that be the pedestal from which you look to your future.
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Allow healing to begin
Don’t wait for someone to speak of your pain before you allow your wounds to heal.
Your wounds will fester and taint everything around you as you look for reason to feel appreciated for the struggle that you have endured, or may still be enduring.
You may even convince yourself that your struggle is important enough to be noticed by those important enough to you.
But, while waiting for them to notice your pain, you suffer.
You stop noticing what is being tainted by your festering wound.
And each time you glare at them, looking for evidence of understanding, and only sometimes finding sympathy instead, you look within and notice that sympathy is only ever a dressing to cover the wound, but never to heal it.
Sympathy only provides a comfortable space in which to nurture the wound, but doesn’t cure it.
A wound caused by betrayal can only be healed through an accepting embrace.
An embrace of everything you were before being wounded, and an embrace that loves everything you are capable of being despite your wound.
An embrace that sees you beyond your wounds, and reconnects you with every innocent belief that you held true, deep within, before that unkind cut gouged your soul.
There is beauty and peace beyond that wound. But only if you allow its healing to be administered by a heart other than the ones who betrayed you.
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Tomorrow is not promised
Too often we remind others that tomorrow is not guaranteed, yet we live our lives as if we have all the time in the world to make that next big decision, or to do right by others.
If tomorrow is not guaranteed, neither is your next breath.
When our thoughts about life remain philosophy, and our reality remains detached, we create a tension within our soul that only we can remedy.
We live life either looking for what is possible, or we live it by looking for why everything is a struggle.
Whichever of the two you seek, you will find.
Mindfulness will offer you the opportunity to take the best of the present, so that the yoke of the past won’t weigh you down with worry for the future.
You owe it to yourself and to those who look to you for inspiration. But if you’re not living in the present moment, you won’t notice them either.
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Be exceptional
If we focus on the exception, we’ll realise what is possible.
If we focus on the norm, we’ll surrender to what we think is inevitable.
This is at the heart of mediocrity versus excellence.
There are those that look at trends and try to follow, and those that focus on value and pursue a better path. Wanting to lead doesn’t drive their agenda.
Leadership is a natural consequence of acting with conviction in wanting to realise the value that you believe will benefit others.
Stop being distracted by the norms you see around you so that you’ll be able to recognise the potential beyond it.
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The delusion of life
A life without introspection is nothing but a delusion.
Assuming that you know yourself without truly knowing yourself leads to many regrets because of poorly informed decisions.
Introspection allows us to learn from the lessons of the past by revealing our contribution towards its outcomes.
Mindfulness allows us to apply those lessons in the present moment.
Ignoring both leads us towards believing that we’re entitled to being treated well simply because we are well intentioned, while ignoring the impact of our actions on those around us.
Stop to reflect, so that your reflection may keep you true to the path that you wish your life to take.
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