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The pain of being empty
When we’re overcome with the pain of betrayal, or loss, our focus is often on what we no longer have, rather than the gaping hole that it left in our soul. We try to reconcile the events or the mysteries that led up to that moment when what we cherished was suddenly taken. Sometimes taken…
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Tainting a beautiful soul
Betrayal of trust always cuts deeper than any other wound that we endure in life. A trust of the heart is an offering of the most sacred parts of who we are to those whom we believe will add to its beauty, and its peace. When it is held sacred by the ones with whom…
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Demand more…of yourself
Unless you believe that you are capable of achieving more, you will always hold on to less. That belief is more about feeling worthy than it is about ability. Sometimes, we look at how our best efforts were received and assume that the negative outcomes bear testament to the value that we have to offer.…
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Depression is not an illness
I realise that this is a highly contentious point. But we must recognise the elephant in the room before we are able to deal with it. The myth that depression is an illness causes more harm than the good it’s intended to achieve. Depression is the absence of hope. Preceding that is the saturation of…
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Do more than survive
Those who respect your victim-hood do so because it makes them feel better about themselves. They either feel more accomplished, or they find comfort in the familiarity of your struggle. Sometimes it gives them purpose in their need to uplift others so that their lives feel more fulfilled. Whether their intentions are good or not…
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More than mindfulness
What we respond to reflects our personal values. How we respond reflects our ego. Emotional mindfulness is key to getting this right. Situational mindfulness is knowing which battles to choose. That’s our value system that drives our choices. Emotional mindfulness is being aware of how we feel when we choose our battles. That’s our self…
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Fear breeds sadness
Fear creates more sadness than heartbreak ever will. Fear keeps us anchored in a moment that has long since passed. Fear convinces us that we need to be protected from what we previously experienced, while distracting us from the wisdom and strength that we gained from that experience. Fear prompts us to look for signs…
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Trading off the best of me
If kindness and compassion are a reflection of who we are, there can be no prerequisite for anyone to have to deserve it, or to earn it from us. How we express it towards them may take different forms, including tough love. But it is our intention behind that tough love, and how we follow…
