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Enabling our oppressors
We only give others permission to disrespect us when we disrespect ourselves first. Disrespect of the self takes many shapes and forms including compromising our values for personal gain, accepting abuse from fear of abandonment, restraining our contribution from fear of rejection, and more. When treating ourselves with disrespect becomes the norm, accepting disrespect becomes…
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Know your place
The value of knowing your place is underrated. So many impose themselves in the hope of acceptance, only to question the sincerity of the company they keep when they eventually earn that acceptance. Sometimes, we only discover our place after having invested in relationships that were never intent on embracing us the way we embraced…
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Regret doesn’t change the past
It’s easy to lose ourselves in our efforts to overcome upheaval. It’s also easy to look back and think that it was the trial that developed the strength or ability to overcome it. But, what if we had that within us all along, and the trial only revealed it? We must recognise the difference between…
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Time rewrites every line
From my blog post titled Legacy of Beauty, this excerpt resonated strongly this evening. “As time morphs the pain into beauty it also morphs the beasts into angels. Those that manipulate the vulnerable suddenly appear as the downtrodden when their loss of control is lamented as a betrayal of love or affection. I sit with…
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The twins of love and pain
We see in the world around us that which occupies the most space in our hearts. When our hearts are filled with love and affection, we find no place for hate or bitterness. When we hold space in our life for justice for past oppression, we prevent that space from being filled with the love…
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Choose your company…wisely
Choose your company carefully. The peace of mind and sense of belonging for which you yearn could easily turn out to be the reason for your anguish. There is rarely a day that passes without me reading or hearing about someone who invested years, if not decades of their life, to people who were not…
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Own your demons
When faced with the brutal aggression or harshness from another, it’s easy to convince ourselves that they treat us that way because of how they feel about us. Unless we’ve done something to specifically provoke them by treating them in a way that undermines their dignity or the trust that they placed in us, their…
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The pain of being empty
When we’re overcome with the pain of betrayal, or loss, our focus is often on what we no longer have, rather than the gaping hole that it left in our soul. We try to reconcile the events or the mysteries that led up to that moment when what we cherished was suddenly taken. Sometimes taken…
