If we focus on the exception, we’ll realise what is possible.
If we focus on the norm, we’ll surrender to what we think is inevitable.
This is at the heart of mediocrity versus excellence.
There are those that look at trends and try to follow, and those that focus on value and pursue a better path. Wanting to lead doesn’t drive their agenda.
Leadership is a natural consequence of acting with conviction in wanting to realise the value that you believe will benefit others.
Stop being distracted by the norms you see around you so that you’ll be able to recognise the potential beyond it.
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Be exceptional
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Expecting hope
Expectations are simply hopes with a sense of entitlement.
The reason for our entitlement to the fulfilment of our hopes are many. Most often, they’re based on what we contributed towards others.
Sometimes we want that contribution reciprocated because we don’t want to allow others to treat us unfairly, or to take us for granted.
But sometimes, we hold on to that entitlement because we want the treasures of who we are to be handled with love and gentleness by a specific other.
Both are based on the hope of what the outcome offers us in happiness and fulfilment. Or even just in achieving a sense of significance.
Unfortunately, if expectations are not mutually honoured, it becomes a burden for one, and a prison for the other.
The good news is, both are choices. The burden and the prison. But they weigh us down until we recognise that they’re choices.
More importantly, until we are willing to let go of the choice to hold on after we’ve exhausted all efforts to achieve its fulfilment, it will continue to feel like a burden or a prison that is imposed, and not one that is chosen.
Choose wisely…choose consciously.
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The delusion of life
A life without introspection is nothing but a delusion.
Assuming that you know yourself without truly knowing yourself leads to many regrets because of poorly informed decisions.
Introspection allows us to learn from the lessons of the past by revealing our contribution towards its outcomes.
Mindfulness allows us to apply those lessons in the present moment.
Ignoring both leads us towards believing that we’re entitled to being treated well simply because we are well intentioned, while ignoring the impact of our actions on those around us.
Stop to reflect, so that your reflection may keep you true to the path that you wish your life to take.
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Embrace your greatness
There is greatness in all of us.
Problem is, if we don’t get recognition from others about our greatness, we assume the greatness is not so great, instead of realising that they’re too distracted to notice.
That’s when we give up on that greatness and instead embrace something trivial that will attract their attention.
Then, when we get their attention, we assume we’ve achieved something great when in fact we just did something that is momentarily popular.
And that’s how we fail to change the world.
We grow old feeling like we were cheated out of greatness, but forget that we traded our greatness for acceptance and validation.
Be greater than that. You’ve got it in you to do it.
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Who says you’re not enough?
If you need to remind yourself that you’re enough, you convinced yourself that you weren’t enough.
No one can do that to you without your agreement or consent.
Reminders, or affirmations have their place in getting us back on track when we become distracted from the truth of who we are.
The moment we need to do either beyond a moment in time, it means that we stopped believing what was once a truth, and now need to find reason to convince ourselves that we’re capable of being that way again.
While there may be truth in that thought process, it also means that we’ve yet to believe that we are what we think we could be, and we therefore convince ourselves that it’s not true in the present moment, but may be true at some future point.
Again, this way of thinking simply reinforces the belief that we’re not who we want to be.
The question therefore is, by whose standard are we judging ourselves when we see ourselves as being less than who we think we are?
If we were judging ourselves by our own standard, our reflections would be an assessment of our growth, rather than a need to convince ourselves that we’re something or someone that we’re not.
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Don’t be the victim oppressor
Every decision we take has an impact on us, and on those around us.
If we only consider one side of that equation, we’ll either become victims by denying ourselves of what we need in favour of pleasing everyone else, or we’ll become oppressors by pleasing ourselves and denying the rights of everyone else.
Finding a balance between the two brings us closer to experiencing joy in our lives.
When we find that we deny ourselves of what we need, it’s because we’re waiting for someone else to convince us that we’re worth it.
When we deny others what they need from us, we’re convinced that they don’t deserve us.
Both mindsets lead to an emptiness that is hard to understand.
Fulfilment and joy in life is found in striking a healthy balance between the two.
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The forgotten village idiot
This essay has been playing on my mind a lot lately.
Covid-19 has revealed the true nature of many, which only served to reinforce this notion.
Who puts a smile on the face of the village idiot?
The saddest part of this essay is that most who read the title thought it to be humorous.
From my book The Egosystem, it explores our relationship with those who give selflessly, while being forgotten.
This pandemic has highlighted the forgotten and the taken-for-granted, and it has diminished further the roles of others who are not deemed essential through need, but who maintain the wellbeing and spirit of others through quiet contribution.
I’ve always considered what this world would feel like if we didn’t label the purpose or the need that we have of others, and instead we were compelled to choose very deliberately each time what it is that we value about another before we are able to obtain benefit from them.
Would that be the cure for the pandemic of consumerism? Would it finally rid us of our inclination to see people as a means to an end?
Or is even that an ideal so far fetched that only the most naive would buy into it?
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Blind rage
Sometimes we get so caught up in our anger at the world that we lose sight of the fact that our anger feeds the very same cycles that we’ve grown to despise.
Don’t get angry.
If you can influence positive change, do it. If not, walk away.
Insisting on rage after you’ve realised that you are unable to influence positive change is an indulgence of your ego and not a righteous protest.
It’s not worth it.
The rage within often blinds us from the oppression that we impose on others.
The rage starts to build up after we’ve experienced oppression at the hands of others, but if left unchecked, it eventually clouds our judgement as we seek vengeance from anyone that reminds us of those who treated us badly.
When you find a reason to rage at every assumed threat, peace becomes elusive and bitterness takes over.
Find a balance between righting the wrongs and inspiring others to rise above your own experiences, otherwise all you’ll be left with is rage and no fulfilment, nor peace in this lifetime.
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