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Maybe tomorrow…
Just like tomorrow is not guaranteed, neither is our next breath. Each moment taken for granted is a moment lost. Each loved one taken for granted is a heartache earned. Each abandoned resolution made after tasting loss or visiting death’s door is food for the seeds of hypocrisy and self-loathing within. The victim mindset turns…
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The shame within
Good advice sometimes feels like a threat because it prompts us to acknowledge a flaw that we feel ashamed of. It’s like putting in your best effort to create a piece of art, and then having someone come along and innocently suggest that you should’ve tried this or that to enhance it further. No matter…
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Who’s doing you in?
This is a phenomenon that I encountered regularly in the corporate world. When your performance appraisal is reviewed against your targets only, but all mitigating circumstances are dismissed, understand that they’re not interested in rating your performance, they’re interested in finding someone to blame for their lack of competence, or lack of support. If, however,…
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Dream killers
Do you find yourself waiting in the shadows, wondering when will it be safe to emerge and take that risk on something that you’ve always dreamt of achieving? Are you waiting for the perfect moment to ensure that you get it just right? Or do you find yourself mentioning it to any person that shows…
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But is it abuse?
If the widespread belief that silent treatment is emotional abuse is to be accepted, then we must also consider the form of abuse that its counter behaviour imposes. Silent treatment is not an assault on the senses and it doesn’t demand a response. The impact on the recipient of silent treatment is therefore dependent on…
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Depression is not what you think it is
⚠ Trigger Warning ⚠ Depression is not a mental illness. It is a legitimate human emotion in the face of overwhelming odds, or the absence of hope. It is a moment of pause when everything that we believed to be true about our world, appears to fail us. By labelling this important human emotion as…
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Navigating relationships – 5 of 5
As romantic as it seems, needing someone to complete you means that you’re not at peace with yourself. It’s not about whether it’s right or wrong. Instead, it’s about being aware of the demands that you’re placing on your partner, most likely without realising it. If both are equally invested in such an approach to…
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Navigating relationships – 4 of 5
The importance of having a healthy support structure cannot be over emphasised. Majority of relationships fail because support structures from one or both sides are focused on protecting their own from the assumed malicious intent of the other party, rather than trying to establish understanding between the couple, and supporting them towards building their relationship.…
