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Navigating relationships – 3 of 5
Understanding why you or your partner behave the way that you do is only the first critical step in creating harmony and establishing that bond that makes a relationship resilient. Once you have this understanding, you need to decide what to do with it. That’s when having mature, objective, and sound advisors become the next…
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Navigating relationships – 2 of 5
When we’re insecure about who we are, we’re more likely to assume that the behaviour of those around us is because of what they think of us. This places an unspoken burden on them that influences how they show up for us when we need them most. If you want to understand your behaviour towards…
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Navigating relationships – 1 of 5
When faced with a serious disagreement in their relationship, couples often turn to their own families or friends for advice or support. This can be helpful if the people providing such support or advice are mature and objective, rather than loyal above all else. Most often, family and friends will support us in our complaints…
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Who defines your worth?
When our self-worth is low, we convince ourselves that we deserve pity and support for the state we’re in, because rising above it seems too daunting. But it’s unlikely that we’ll realise that it’s a low self-worth driving such behaviour. Instead, we’ll be convinced that the most important thing in the world is for the…
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Dehumanising struggling humans
Trigger warning ⚠ As destructive as narcissistic behaviour is, it is not the entirety of any person’s being. Narcissism is a result of intense insecurity about the self. To compensate for this insecurity, the one who is insecure about their worth to others will always focus on hiding their shame, rather than admitting their vulnerability.…
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Who says you’re not enough?
When we find a need to repeat affirmations like ‘I am enough’ to ourselves in the mirror each day, we’re trying to convince ourselves to believe something that we are already convinced is not true. If we believed it to be true, there would be no reason to try to convince ourselves about it each…
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Dignity is yours to claim
There is no shortage of examples of dignity in war zones, poverty or drought stricken areas, or in the midst of heinous terrorist attacks. Notice how some people, when faced with soul-destroying realities, are still dignified in how they rise above it? If you wait for your aggressor or abuser to treat you with dignity…
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The victim bully
The common trait between the blatant bully and the passive aggressive victim is that they both share a victim mindset. The one demands significance through invoking fear in others, while the other tests for their significance by shaming or guilt-tripping others. The victim mindset sets in when we allow ourselves to be defined by the…