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As destructive as narcissistic behaviour is, it is not the entirety of any person’s being.
Narcissism is a result of intense insecurity about the self.
To compensate for this insecurity, the one who is insecure about their worth to others will always focus on hiding their shame, rather than admitting their vulnerability.
That’s why they’re so quick to preemptively defend themselves or to direct blame at others when things go wrong.
It’s simply a result of being exhausted from never having been enough, or significant enough to significant others in their lives.
People often assume that narcissistic behaviour is selfish because people who tend towards such behaviour come from privileged backgrounds, or always got what they wanted.
That’s part of the problem.
Having privilege doesn’t mean that we feel heard as human beings. Or that we feel seen.
Narcissistic behaviour is real, but it’s not something that cannot be changed, nor is it something that is consistent in every sphere of their life.
The worst thing for narcissism is to be coupled with someone who is needy or also insecure themselves.
If you’re insecure about who you are, your needs from someone who is struggling with narcissistic insecurities is like a threat to their feelings of inadequacy.
That’s why an insecure individual will be more affected by narcissistic behaviour than one who is grounded in their self-worth.
We must stop dehumanising humans by labeling them based on how we experience their behaviour.
Instead, we must seek to understand, with compassion and empathy.
But we can only do that if we have it within ourselves, for ourselves.
You can’t give what you don’t have.
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Dehumanising struggling humans
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