Who defines your worth?

When our self-worth is low, we convince ourselves that we deserve pity and support for the state we’re in, because rising above it seems too daunting.

But it’s unlikely that we’ll realise that it’s a low self-worth driving such behaviour.

Instead, we’ll be convinced that the most important thing in the world is for the world to recognise just how difficult life is for us before we are willing to pick ourselves up and power through that last betrayal, or disappointment, or failed relationship.

The kind of thoughts that occupy our minds when in such a state include thoughts of preemptively defending ourselves against negative judgements about our life, or our lack of motivation, or our fear of commitment.

That’s how we start living inside our heads while believing that we’re just being realistic because we’ve learnt the harsh lessons after trusting one time too many, or being emotionally vulnerable to the wrong person.

The low self-worth is therefore a result of us losing sight of the good that we tried to contribute, despite the bad that we received in return.

It sets in when we convince ourselves that our best was not good enough, while ignoring the internal struggles that others were dealing with when we needed them to show up for us.

Our self-worth only suffers when we lose sight of the value of who we are, because we got distracted by the low self-worth of those around us.

When the need to protect yourself from the prying eyes of those who would judge you poorly triumphs over your need to aspire to achieve your dreams, you lose both, your self-esteem and your dreams.

Gratitude for the self is established through gratitude for the self. Not through the gratitude that others have for who you are.

It always starts with you.

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