The thing about chasing dreams, is that it’s our dreams.
As obvious as that seems, we rarely recognise that no one else will ever have a view of our dreams the way that we have it even if we describe it to them in detail.
They will visualise it within the context of their lives and limitations.
By chasing our dreams with conviction, we must connect with the value that will be created when we achieve those dreams.
It’s that value that will give us the tenacity and resilience to push beyond the doubts and cynicism of those we encounter on our journey.
To believe in that value, you must believe in yourself.
Believing in yourself means to develop an informed opinion of who you are, despite what the world may think of you. Because, again, the opinions that others have of you is based on the context and limitations that they see in their lives, not in yours.
Stop waiting for permission to chase your dreams. Like Barry Hilton said, “It’s your dream to lose.”
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Never stop chasing
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The balance of happiness
Without meaning to, life can become a trading exercise in which we give something with the expectation of receiving something else in return.
That’s when it gets complicated. When the assumptions of one or both becomes entangled in the belief that happiness lies in a like-for-like exchange of sentiment or gifts, or perhaps effort.
Sometimes, happiness is found in the opportunity to love without resistance to it.
The ability to have your expression received graciously and appreciatively, because in such acceptance lies the happiness of the one who gives, and the gracious acceptance forms the expression of love of the one who receives.
Happiness is found in differing expressions of love creating a beautiful whole.
It’s when servitude meets devotion, or nurturing meets strength that the two complement each other, rather than compete with each other.
Happiness is found in the balance that is born from the two, not in trying to create a singular expression between the two as one.
Too often we assume the happiness of another to be dependent on our active contribution towards them, rather than realising that it is simply our appreciation of their contribution towards us that creates the fulfilment that would calm the souls of both.
Calm souls create beauty, while anguished souls create destruction. Breathe beloved…just breathe…
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Understanding vs Judgement
There are two types of people in this world.
Those who appreciate our efforts for trying to achieve good things.
And those who ignore our efforts and judge us for failing.
The ones who appreciate the effort recognise their own path towards growth, and empathise with the struggle and aspirations of others. This inspires them to uplift and guide gently, although firmly at times.
The ones who judge others for failing are bitter about not having had such support when they failed on their path of growth, and therefore feel a need to highlight the shortcomings of others so that they may draw attention to their own successes, or their struggles.
This prompts them to be harsh and uncompromising in their feedback and expectations from others.
Being aware of which one of these you are can shift the dynamic of your life from one of toxic competition, to one of peaceful perseverance.
The choice you make will have a profound impact on the quality of your life, and your relationships with those around you.
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Always hope
When we focus on the struggles of our lives, we feel defeated.
When we focus on the growth, we feel empowered to overcome future obstacles.
But we’re human. We doubt ourselves and sometimes we feel entitled to peace.
In the process, we create self-fulfilling prophecies by growing despondent when things go wrong, rather than looking for the opportunities to create something better.
We limit our ability to overcome obstacles by telling ourselves that there is a limit to what we’re capable of dealing with.
Rather than embracing the challenges without preempting the outcomes, we end up focusing on how close we are to that limit that we set for ourselves and then grow defensive the moment we believe things are getting too close to it.
That’s how we prevent ourselves from trying beyond a certain point, and that’s how we grow to believe that some things are impossible to overcome.
Sometimes, when things seem like they’re falling apart, they may just be falling into place. But when we fixate on what’s falling apart, we deny ourselves the opportunity to see how it may be contributing towards our dreams and goals that were being hindered by what we had in the first place.
Breathe, beloved. And let faith, not fear, guide you through the storm.
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Reconnect with your innate wisdom
We all have an innate wisdom that we lose sight of as the distractions of life accumulate.
When we go out in search of answers and adopt methods that worked for someone else, we further distance ourselves from that innate wisdom.
This distancing that occurs undermines our authenticity, and leaves us feeling at odds with life rather than comforting us.
To reconnect with that peace that feels so elusive, we must reconnect with that innate wisdom, or else life will continue to feel like a detached experience.
It is only in sincere conversation that truths are encountered and wisdom adopted.
For this reason, I am not hers to teach you anything new. My sole purpose is to reconnect you with the wisdom that you already have within you.
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Depression is not an illness
I realise that this is a highly contentious point. But we must recognise the elephant in the room before we are able to deal with it.
The myth that depression is an illness causes more harm than the good it’s intended to achieve.
Depression is the absence of hope. Preceding that is the saturation of failed expectations from those we consider significant in our lives.
Like happiness, depression is not a choice. But, also like happiness, depression is an outcome of the collective choices that we make.
The more aware we are of those choices, and importantly the consequences of those choices, the more consciously we are able to make decisions to break the cycles that result from those choices.
The moment we label a human experience as an illness or a disorder, we create victims rather than masters of our emotional experience, thereby disempowering us in our efforts to rise above the unpleasant experiences of our lives.
Depression is not an illness. It is a legitimate human experience in response to bad experiences in life.
When we begin to recognise this, it becomes possible to reconnect with our humanity, rather than to surrender to an imagined illness.
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Do more than survive
Those who respect your victim-hood do so because it makes them feel better about themselves.
They either feel more accomplished, or they find comfort in the familiarity of your struggle.
Sometimes it gives them purpose in their need to uplift others so that their lives feel more fulfilled.
Whether their intentions are good or not is not what’s important. The important point is that neither prompts you to rise above being a victim.
Those who support you in your moments of weakness or need but also encourage you to rise above it are the ones to cherish.
Before you take offence to what I’m saying, you need to realise that you’re only a victim when you allow the oppression of others to define your self worth, and to dictate your effort towards establishing a life worth living.
The moment you own your life and rise above the impact of that oppression, you’re no longer a victim, you’re a fighter! Not a survivor!
As long as you focus on surviving, you’re still defined by the moment of your oppression, even though you may have freed yourself from it.
Be more than the struggles of your life. It’s possible, and beautifully rewarding.
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More than mindfulness
What we respond to reflects our personal values.
How we respond reflects our ego.
Emotional mindfulness is key to getting this right.
Situational mindfulness is knowing which battles to choose. That’s our value system that drives our choices.
Emotional mindfulness is being aware of how we feel when we choose our battles. That’s our self worth that comes into play.
Recognising the difference allows us to be more effective at achieving the positive outcomes that we hope for in life, rather than self-sabotaging because of our insecurities that may contaminate our tone in communicating what we feel strongly about.
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