Fate has a way of giving us what we ask for when we don’t realise we’re asking for it.
It is the yearnings of the soul that calls out to the heavens, while our mouths utter pleas that are born of the distractions of needs.
Needs are ephemeral. They pass through us like the passing of fluids through the loins of beasts.
Denial of such needs leads to anger, and anger betrays the soul.
The yearnings of the soul prevail beyond such fickle expression.
It is in the infinity of true love that the soul finds peace.
Whatever ends, is therefore not true to love or to the soul. It is not what physical bond we may maintain that defines such love.
Such a love is defined by the pulse of the soul that continues to beat, eternally rhythmically, for the same soul that set it alight and inspired its beautiful rhythm.
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True love is never lost
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Respectfully dishonest
This is especially true for our relationships with ourselves, more than it reflects on our relationships with others.
We disrespect ourselves when we avoid truths that feel shameful or disappointing about who we are.
That shame or disappointment that we feel is because we’re looking at ourselves through other people’s eyes, or at least what we think they would think of us if they knew what we’re hiding within.
We respect ourselves when we focus on understanding rather than judging why we’re not being true to the standard that we want to live up to.
But that standard must be our own aspiration, and not a standard defined by society or anyone else.
Someone else may suggest or advise on what is worth pursuing, but we must adopt that as our own aspiration, with conviction, or else we’ll again judge ourselves to be a success or a failure when we exert ourselves towards achieving that goal.
If you’re dishonest with yourself or with others, then respect is no longer part of that interaction.
Take time to reflect and recalibrate your efforts, and leave the judgement to those who will judge regardless of your best efforts towards them.
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Demand more…of yourself
Unless you believe that you are capable of achieving more, you will always hold on to less.
That belief is more about feeling worthy than it is about ability.
Sometimes, we look at how our best efforts were received and assume that the negative outcomes bear testament to the value that we have to offer.
We then find reason to withhold our contribution in future without pausing to consider that perhaps we invested our efforts in someone who wasn’t ready to value what we shared.
But, it’s never that simple, is it?
Often, we continue to invest because we believe in the untapped beauty or value that we see in them.
It is that belief that anchors us in the ‘if only’ and ‘what if’ scenarios that play out in our heads, while blinding our hearts from the beauty that awaits if only we invested our efforts more wisely.
At such times, we must look to those who see our beauty, rather than fixating on those who deny their own.
It’s the only way to break the cycle that diminishes our contribution towards creating joy in our lives, and in the lives of those around us.
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Do more than survive
Those who respect your victim-hood do so because it makes them feel better about themselves.
They either feel more accomplished, or they find comfort in the familiarity of your struggle.
Sometimes it gives them purpose in their need to uplift others so that their lives feel more fulfilled.
Whether their intentions are good or not is not what’s important. The important point is that neither prompts you to rise above being a victim.
Those who support you in your moments of weakness or need but also encourage you to rise above it are the ones to cherish.
Before you take offence to what I’m saying, you need to realise that you’re only a victim when you allow the oppression of others to define your self worth, and to dictate your effort towards establishing a life worth living.
The moment you own your life and rise above the impact of that oppression, you’re no longer a victim, you’re a fighter! Not a survivor!
As long as you focus on surviving, you’re still defined by the moment of your oppression, even though you may have freed yourself from it.
Be more than the struggles of your life. It’s possible, and beautifully rewarding.
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Fear breeds sadness
Fear creates more sadness than heartbreak ever will.
Fear keeps us anchored in a moment that has long since passed.
Fear convinces us that we need to be protected from what we previously experienced, while distracting us from the wisdom and strength that we gained from that experience.
Fear prompts us to look for signs and evidence that what we fear may once again be approaching, and distracts us from the signs and evidence that what we hope for is within reach.
Like everything that destroys, fear requires little effort because it is a self-sustaining cycle.
Hope, on the feet hand, requires courage.
Hope demands that we reconnect with who we are before that last bitter encounter.
Hope is not for the meek. When we succumb to fear, the meek prevail and life loses its sweetness.
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Fearfully hopeful
Patience is only patience when it is the foundation of hope. Not when it is the pacifier of fear.
Hope is the currency of growth, whereas fear is what breeds decay.
To patiently await the decay of what we hold dear is not patience, it is surrender.
To hope, despite the apparent futility that stares us down, is the ultimate rebellion against fear.
To patiently persevere is therefore to continue fighting for that which brings us love and happiness, especially when the circumstances of our lives will warrant a surrender.
It is this beautiful patience that holds the promise of a heart filled with love, or a life fraught with pain.
When we lose sight of the outcome that we hope to achieve, we surrender to fear and settle for the familiarity of the pain that we once yearned to escape.
Surrender must never be an option.
Fa sabrun jameel…
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Trading off the best of me
If kindness and compassion are a reflection of who we are, there can be no prerequisite for anyone to have to deserve it, or to earn it from us.
How we express it towards them may take different forms, including tough love.
But it is our intention behind that tough love, and how we follow through with it, that determines if it was indeed inspired by kindness and compassion, or by anger or frustration.
The moment we expect someone to earn our kindness, respect, or any other virtue that we claim to possess, we lose that virtue and replace it with arrogance.
Arrogance is a result of a low self esteem.
There is no reason to demand recognition of our contribution if we truly appreciate the value of what we contribute.
Therefore, we diminish ourselves by trading with others that which we should be valuing within ourselves.
Express the beauty of you despite the bitterness of those around you.
It may be the very catalyst needed to break the cycle of your life that you so despise.
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Understanding misunderstanding
When we find that, despite our sincerest efforts, we continue to be misunderstood, consider that perhaps we need to focus on understanding instead.
Understanding becomes difficult when we’re gripped with the desperation of needing others to understand how important something is to us.
That desperation is often driven by fear, or self pity, rather than conviction. And it’s fed by a belief that they simply don’t realise how important it is.
If we’re not careful, this is how we become the architects of our own misery, or the result of our own self-fulfilling prophecy.
The greater our emotional investment, the more likely we are to contaminate that space with fear or self pity.
Creating space for understanding is the most important thing you can do to avoid a potential lifetime of regret.
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