Tag: selfmastery

  • Dishonesty, the destroyer

    Dishonesty, the destroyer

    The profundity of the verse from the Qur’an that says that if you are grateful, Allah will increase you, resonates strongly through every theme of life. It is through gratitude that good is created, harm is kept at bay, and we are connected to what feeds our soul. Therefore, what destroys good must be the […]

  • Settling for a hint of life

    Settling for a hint of life

    How we see ourselves is reflected in the choices that we make in life. Not what is obvious about those choices, but what we’re trying to achieve through those choices. Unfortunately, most are unaware of the second part. That underlying need that drives the choices that we make. When we lose sight of that need, […]

  • Empty apologies

    Empty apologies

    “Hey, I apologised. If you don’t accept my apology, that’s your problem, not mine.” Did someone say this to you after offending you or treating you badly? Maybe you felt you had reason to say it to someone else that rejected your apology? The moment we demand that our apology must be enough, we’re not […]

  • The destruction of self-deprecation

    The destruction of self-deprecation

    In our efforts to subdue our ego, many resort to self-deprecation. Sometimes we put ourselves down to test if anyone will be willing to disagree with us, thereby hoping to receive acknowledgement or appreciation that would otherwise not be forthcoming. At other times, we put ourselves down because we try to convince ourselves that we […]

  • Don’t trade your best for their worst

    Don’t trade your best for their worst

    There is rarely a day that passes without me reading or hearing about someone who invested years, if not decades of their life, to people who were not invested in the relationship. When the reality of that betrayal finally hits home, it destroys our spirit and convinces us that we’ve sacrificed the best years of […]

  • Betrayed expectations

    Betrayed expectations

    Without realising it, expectations create an underlying sense of entitlement regarding the outcomes that we want. That entitlement is what influences our attitude and demeanour in how we approach things or relationships. When we feel justified to have such expectations, we lose sight of the entitlement, which leads to the intensity of emotion that we […]

  • Reframe what brings you joy

    Reframe what brings you joy

    Reframing our perspective on life is more important than trying to solve problems that have been plaguing us for years, if not generations. Like Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that created it.” Or something like that. Point is, if you keep hitting your head against a brick wall hoping […]

  • Are you losing yourself?

    Are you losing yourself?

    It’s easy to lose yourself if you don’t really know who you are, or who you want to be in a given moment. Far too often, we demand a specific response from others because of what we need, not because of what we are hoping to achieve, or create. Do we want to create peace, […]