Tag: selfmastery

  • The insincerity of self-loathing

    The insincerity of self-loathing

    As always, you cannot give what you don’t have. You can’t give someone a smile if you don’t have one yourself. Similarly, you cannot appreciate what you’re ungrateful for. If you take yourself for granted, any appreciation that you express towards others is based on you wanting them to feel appreciated the way that you […]

  • A life full of things…except happiness

    A life full of things…except happiness

    While there may be truth in the saying that money doesn’t buy happiness but at least you can choose your misery, we need to consider if we really want to be choosing our misery or experiencing happiness? It all starts out with good intent. Earn some money to improve your quality of life, or create […]

  • Eat more humble pie

    Eat more humble pie

    It only tastes like humble pie when we feel humiliated after being corrected. Arrogance is the belief that we’re better…humility visits us when we realise that we’re not. The root of arrogance is insecurity, but that’s a discussion for another day. If we’re sincere about wanting to benefit others or wanting to create good for […]

  • Who controls you?

    Who controls you?

    Sometimes, we’re so focused on reacting to the disrespect that we receive from others that we don’t realise how we give up our self-respect in the process. If we continue in reaction mode for long enough, we’ll find ourselves not only returning the favour by treating them the way that they treat us, but we’ll […]

  • Who makes you feel worthy?

    Who makes you feel worthy?

    Confidence comes from caring less about what others think of you, and caring more about what you think of yourself. The question is, do you know yourself well enough to have an informed opinion of who you are? When we rely on others for more than just feedback and instead allow them to validate who […]

  • Chasing dreams

    Chasing dreams

    Chasing dreams is not all butterflies and roses, or unicorns and rainbows, or whatever. Actually, it’s more whatevers than it is anything else because it provokes and inspires changes and new realities in all your comfort spaces. But, if you have an endearing relationship with your comfort zones, then chasing dreams is not for you. […]

  • Why judge yourself?

    Why judge yourself?

    “By those who consider the whole of me, I may be judged fairly. But by those who remain invested in only a single moment of time from a distant memory, they will only be able to judge an abstract moment of what Iā€™ve lived.” (Excerpt from my essay A Long Drive With Me) On the […]

  • Embrace the whole of you

    Embrace the whole of you

    We often discard good advice because we don’t like the source. Sometimes it’s because we don’t want to appear weak in front of them, and other times it’s because we are trying to save face after having treated them badly. Emotional maturity is achieved when we are willing to learn from our enemies and loved […]