Confidence comes from caring less about what others think of you, and caring more about what you think of yourself.
The question is, do you know yourself well enough to have an informed opinion of who you are?
When we rely on others for more than just feedback and instead allow them to validate who we are, we essentially give them the power to define how we feel about ourselves.
Listening to what others think of you must be done with one single focus in mind.
It must be with the objective of determining whether or not the message that you intended was in fact the message that they received.
But that means that you must know what your message is.
What is your unique contribution?
Chances are good that a lot of the good that you do, you simply see it as duty or responsibility.
And yes, the outcome that we must achieve may be our responsibility or our duty towards others, but how we achieve that outcome and how we make them feel in the process is uniquely us.
When we lose sight of that, we lose ourselves to duty.
When we lose ourselves to duty, we feel worthless when our contribution is not appreciated, because our self-worth has grown to be defined by how much others acknowledge and appreciate our efforts towards them.
That’s when ingratitude for the self kicks in.
When we diminish who we are because we’re not validated by someone else, we essentially convince ourselves that all the good that we possess is worthless, because it’s not appreciated by one who probably doesn’t appreciate themselves either.
So. So you know yourself well enough to appreciate who you are? Or is your self-worth nothing more than an affirmation in the mirror?
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Who makes you feel worthy?
