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What are you waiting for?

I’ve often advised someone about something that I truly believed them to be capable of achieving, and the response I received was, “Not everyone is like you!”

Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Sadly, too many think that they can’t, and then blame the world for the state in which they find themselves.

But why would someone willingly put themselves down, or sell themselves short?

Did I hear you say fear of failure? No. That’s what we see, and often what they feel on the surface.

Dig a little deeper and you’ll realise that failure is such a threat because it threatens to reduce our significance among those who are important to us.

It’s the threat of insignificance through being incompetent or unsuccessful that fills us with the fear of failure.

But, we must always remember that fear is only the response to what we’re assuming is the probable outcome of our efforts.

In other words, when we’re convinced that we won’t be able to accomplish something, or we have doubts about achieving it, the assumptions that we’ve made is what we’re focused on. Hence the feeling of dread or fear when we contemplate the future outcome.

Hence the fear of failure.

The important question to consider is therefore not if we’re capable of achieving that goal, but rather why is our feeling of significance as a person defined by our level of success?

And before you say it’s because people judge you as a failure if you don’t accomplish things the way you’re expected to, the next question you should be asking is why does the judgement of others define your self-worth more than your opinion of yourself?

People’s opinions will only weigh you down if you give them permission to do so.

Talking about permission, when was the last time you gave yourself permission to learn from your failures instead of judging yourself for failing?

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Zaid Ismail

Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.

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