You are more than how you look

Taking pride in the colour of your skin or ethnicity distracts you from your humanity.Our humanness, our gentleness, our inclination towards kindness - these are all part of our natural state.It's our need to be associated with significance or superiority that distracts us from this, and replaces it with the fear of being inadequate.When we [...]

Gratitude before regret

It's impossible to be grateful for a blessing that you don't acknowledge.Like believing that we're entitled to certain outcomes because of our effort or contribution.Or believing that we're entitled to be treated a certain way because we believe we're a good person.Whether those entitlements are true is not the issue.The issue is that we are [...]

Gratitude is not the first step

Gratitude is all that matters, because gratitude is not possible without everything that matters coming before it.Gratitude escapes us when we don't respect the effort needed to achieve anything worth achieving.It escapes us when we assume that we're entitled to an outcome, without considering our contribution that is needed towards that outcome.It escapes us when [...]

The absent parent

Even an absent parent is still parenting.It's then on the shoulders of the present one to compensate for that.Sometimes, the absence of someone has a greater impact on us than the presence of others.This is especially true for parenting.The absent parent leaves the child with feelings of abandonment, insignificance, and a low self-esteem, to name [...]

Invest purposefully in your life

Invest in creating the life that you want, rather than escaping the life that you don’t want.It might sound obvious, but take a breather and consider what drives your choices.Are you driven by the need to avoid unpleasant encounters in your life?Or are you driven by the need to create encounters that connect with your [...]

The understanding seeker

Seek to understand, so that you may be able to accept the events of your life with peace, rather than feeling compelled to let go with bitterness.It's the inclination to want to be heard that denies us peace when we're not heard.Or to want to be acknowledged when we are dismissed.Rather than fight to be [...]