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Kill the label. Kill the stigma.
⚠ Trigger Warning ⚠ The moment we attach a label to a life experience, we focus on the label and discard the merits of the experience. We make people invisible when we deny the reality of their experience by suggesting that there is something clinically wrong with them, despite causality of their emotional upheaval being…
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Bitter sweet nostalgia
Nostalgia is a beautiful thing, if we connected with the joy in those moments. Otherwise, it is torturous, as we remind ourselves of what we’ve lost, while losing the present moment along with those memories. Mindfulness of the blessing of the present moment is the only way to live a fulfilled life without courting regret.…
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The courage to parent properly
The courage that is needed, is the courage to seek sincere, informed advisors to help us to understand why we may be struggling to connect with our children. We don’t know what we don’t know. If we try to figure life out by ourselves, we’ll only ever learn the hard way, from our own mistakes.…
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Judge as you wish to be judged
We speak from a position of privilege when we judge the failures of others within the context of what is possible for us. Even something as simple as the resolve we have, or the choices we made to rise above a challenge, comes from a place of assuming that our emotional resilience is the same…
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The arrogance spawned by fear
Fear causes us to fixate on our intentions, while defending the bad behaviour that such fear spawns. The fear is most often associated with what we think is under threat, or that others won’t understand. So we begin preempting what they intend towards us, or what threats they present to what we want for ourselves.…
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The demon of self-loathing
We cannot give what we don’t have. This is a simple truth that cannot be denied. When we realise what this means for the behaviour that we display towards others, we’ll realise what it says about how we feel about ourselves. When we take ourselves for granted, we feel entitled to what others do for…
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Gratitude is more than an attitude
An attitude of gratitude is not gratitude, because gratitude is not about attitude. It’s about a way of being. Too often we confuse appreciation with gratitude. Appreciation is what we express for favours or gifts, or the ease that we experience in our lives or with others. We appreciate the absence of problems, the presence…
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Are you who you think you are?
Most people see themselves through someone else’s eyes, without ever realising it. Without exception, whenever we judge ourselves harshly, it’s because we’re measuring our worth based on what we think someone else will think of us rather than what we think of ourselves. That someone else is most often a parent or significant other. And…