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Navigating relationships – 4 of 5
The importance of having a healthy support structure cannot be over emphasised. Majority of relationships fail because support structures from one or both sides are focused on protecting their own from the assumed malicious intent of the other party, rather than trying to establish understanding between the couple, and supporting them towards building their relationship.…
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Navigating relationships – 3 of 5
Understanding why you or your partner behave the way that you do is only the first critical step in creating harmony and establishing that bond that makes a relationship resilient. Once you have this understanding, you need to decide what to do with it. That’s when having mature, objective, and sound advisors become the next…
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Navigating relationships – 2 of 5
When we’re insecure about who we are, we’re more likely to assume that the behaviour of those around us is because of what they think of us. This places an unspoken burden on them that influences how they show up for us when we need them most. If you want to understand your behaviour towards…
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Navigating relationships – 1 of 5
When faced with a serious disagreement in their relationship, couples often turn to their own families or friends for advice or support. This can be helpful if the people providing such support or advice are mature and objective, rather than loyal above all else. Most often, family and friends will support us in our complaints…
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A burdensome labour of love
Responsibility, when met with gratitude, feels like a labour of love. Remove gratitude, and it becomes a burdensome load. But only if gratitude is expected. That’s when expectations weigh down on us more than responsibility, because of the internal wait for others to reciprocate, or to notice. It’s not unreasonable to hold that expectation. In…
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The truth about compromise
That old adage about marriage being about compromise explains why so many marriages appear so burdensome to the ones involved. Before you start listing all the sacrifices that you make towards making your marriage work, consider that a willing compromise or sacrifice is a contribution towards something greater than who we are. The only time…
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Prisons of our minds
Without realising it, we create most of the boundaries and the dependencies that we have on others, often without them being aware of it. One of the reasons we do this is because that is our code of life that we’re honouring. It’s our way of respecting or protecting what we see as sacred in…
