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The truth about compromise

That old adage about marriage being about compromise explains why so many marriages appear so burdensome to the ones involved.

Before you start listing all the sacrifices that you make towards making your marriage work, consider that a willing compromise or sacrifice is a contribution towards something greater than who we are.

The only time sacrifice becomes a compromise is when it is done begrudgingly.

When we consider what we’re creating, we contribute towards its outcome.

Contribution, by its very nature, demands that we give up something in exchange for something of value to us.

And that’s the secret to marriage not being a compromise.

Marriage is about creating something that brings us joy and fulfilment, and hopefully leaves a legacy that improves the state of this world.

Yeah, we may technically give up an indulgence for ourselves because of the greater good that we’re pursuing, but as always, perspective is 110% of reality.

Focus on what you’re giving up, and you’ll lose the joy of what you’re creating.

Focus on what you’re losing, and you’ll lose sight of how much more you’ve gained.

So focus on what you’re creating in your marriage, and sacrifice won’t feature. Only a willing, heartfelt contribution will drive your efforts.

Life becomes hollow when you seek to only take what you need, or when you constantly focus on what you’re getting in exchange for what you’re giving.

Give because you have something of value to share. Not because you need something in return.

Own Your Life.

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Zaid Ismail

Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.

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