The saddest scene for me has always been the abandoned park bench.
It echoes with profound intensity the pervasive isolation that too many experience, but too few reveal.
There is a shame that is carried upon the broken wings of abandonment that anchors us in that space between wanting to create beauty in this world, while believing that it will always be unreachable for ourselves.
So we birth the martyr within, presenting it as the selfless lover without.
Being sure to distract others with affection, so that no one notices how achingly we stare at those empty benches.
Those benches that once bore the hopes and dreams of togetherness.
Those benches that once were claimed as sacred spaces.
Those benches that remain available to the next loving embrace between its arms, knowing that once the lovers move on, it will remain, rooted to that spot, waiting to be embraced and abandoned, again.
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Elusive peace…
Peace…that elusive mist that needs to enshroud everything.
Its absence creates the need to change the circumstances of our lives, so that we leave no space for nothing, needing every space to be filled with something.
Some look to fill those spaces with trinkets and tokens.
Others look to fill it with purposeful endeavours.
But central to both, lies the need to benefit someone in our efforts to avoid being no one.
Without that someone, we remain unfulfilled and incomplete.
Similar to the nothingness in the absence of peace.
Because life must be lived, and living must leave a legacy.
But a legacy ceases to be a legacy if it has no inheritors at the moment of our passing.
This primal instinct to be something is what drives our efforts towards avoiding being nothing.
The threat of which is the root to losing ourselves to the distraction of everything, when we lose hope of ever being something…to someone…but not just anyone.
Thus, the test of gratitude enters, as we reject some in our pursuit of others, never knowing for certain the impact we have on the lives that we touch.
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The twins of love and pain
We see in the world around us that which occupies the most space in our hearts.
When our hearts are filled with love and affection, we find no place for hate or bitterness.
When we hold space in our life for justice for past oppression, we prevent that space from being filled with the love that we may receive in the present moment.
The need for justice often overwhelms any prospect of happiness because we feel denied as long as those who caused us pain live without consequence.
When we’re filled with the rage of revenge, or the need for justice, any approaching love or affection appears as a threat for further pain because the possibility of betrayal is still clearly etched in the pain from the past that has yet to be reconciled.
Healing then becomes dependent on justice, and life is put on hold. That holding pattern serves as a constant reminder of the injustice that we suffered, or the betrayal that cut so deeply.
Thus, the oppression of the past contaminates the present, and denies us a future of the very happiness we hope to experience.
But, when our rage convinces us that love and pain are twins, the promise of peace becomes a threat, and the holding pattern of pain becomes a comfort. Thus, we become unavailable to those who love us, and remain committed to seeking vengeance against those who thrive on our misery.
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The pain of being empty
When we’re overcome with the pain of betrayal, or loss, our focus is often on what we no longer have, rather than the gaping hole that it left in our soul.
We try to reconcile the events or the mysteries that led up to that moment when what we cherished was suddenly taken.
Sometimes taken by fate, but at other times taken by force.
We feel violated when we’re left vacant. When the space we once reserved for one we cherished was abandoned without reason, or for all the wrong reasons.
When the reasons are easily overcome, if only they’d be willing to overcome it with us.
When we see in them what they refuse to see in themselves.
Or when they give up hope for what they need from fear of losing it, again. So they protect themselves from us, not because of who we are, but because of how they were betrayed before us.
That’s when we need to sit quietly with that gaping hole and find in it the peace that absence promises. It’s a peace found in the absence of expectation, or in the presence of calm.
But calm is elusive when we’re fighting to get back what is not ours to claim. That’s when pain sets in. That’s when the gaping hole becomes a suffocating mess, rather than a passing anguish.
Be still, beloved. Be composed. Be at peace knowing that the best of you will never be good enough for those who are not good enough for themselves.
Their demons are your pain only because you see the beauty that they never tasted.
Don’t give up that beauty because of their bitter tongue. Their bitterness is theirs to savour, and yours to abandon. Breathe…
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