Holding on to bitterness for a past betrayal is like drinking poison and hoping that your betrayer will die.
Bitterness eats away at your peace while you hope that the intensity of your bitterness will somehow influence the karma of the person who treated you poorly.
If you had that much power, you’d have been able to enforce justice with them already.
The longer you hold on to the bitterness, the more harm you cause for yourself more than any harm that they may have imposed on you.
When you fixate on your reasons to feel bitter, you prevent yourself from considering whether your assumptions about their intentions or motives are true.
You also prevent yourself from seeing the impact of your bitterness on those around you who had nothing to do with that betrayal or hurt caused by someone else.
Sometimes people betray trust because their own fears are stronger than their convictions, and not necessarily because they deliberately wanted to use or hurt you.
Anger in the face of betrayal, even hurt, is understandable.
But just because it is understandable doesn’t mean it’s good for you.
Own how you feel.
Understand what you can do to handle such situations better in future.
Move on.
Life awaits.
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Tag: bitterness
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A bitter end
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Thus, is love lost
In affection, we focus on our beauty
In rejection, we focus on our deficiencies
Perhaps that’s why the world is so harsh
Too many are waiting for their deficiencies to be accepted before they share their beauty
Or need their grievances with one to be compensated before they accept the beauty of another.
Each time we wait for the past to be redressed before
we invest in the future
We are discarding the future in favour of the very past we wish we could leave behind
Thus is the gift of love discarded
And bitterness courted.
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Understanding vs Judgement
There are two types of people in this world.
Those who appreciate our efforts for trying to achieve good things.
And those who ignore our efforts and judge us for failing.
The ones who appreciate the effort recognise their own path towards growth, and empathise with the struggle and aspirations of others. This inspires them to uplift and guide gently, although firmly at times.
The ones who judge others for failing are bitter about not having had such support when they failed on their path of growth, and therefore feel a need to highlight the shortcomings of others so that they may draw attention to their own successes, or their struggles.
This prompts them to be harsh and uncompromising in their feedback and expectations from others.
Being aware of which one of these you are can shift the dynamic of your life from one of toxic competition, to one of peaceful perseverance.
The choice you make will have a profound impact on the quality of your life, and your relationships with those around you.
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