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Well intended bad methods
Good intentions coupled with a bad method will result in bad outcomes. When that happens, fixating on our good intentions won’t make any difference to the consequences of our actions. The merit of what we do is always more important than the intention with which we do it. The moment we flip that around, we…
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Raising adults
Just like we don’t blame the fruit for the tree from which it came, we can’t blame our children for their character before they reach an age of self-awareness and critical thinking. If we find the fruit of a tree to be lacking in sweetness, we pay attention to the tree and what it needs…
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Self-indulgent self-loathing
Self-indulgence leads to self-loathing because there are too many who think that contentment lies in putting yourself first. Putting yourself first is easy. Look around and see how many self-indulgent people you have in your life, and then consider how it is that they may really just be trying to take care of themselves because…
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You will, or else…
If it is true that the path to hell is paved with good intentions, then it confirms that good intentions are not enough to create positive outcomes. If we raise children with the fear of negative consequences, they’ll never truly connect with the benefit of doing what’s right. When that fear barrier is broken, and…
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You judge others as you judge yourself
Judgement is easy. Understanding, empathy, compassion…not so easy. It only gets easier when we are capable of treating ourselves with kindness. But that isn’t as easy as it sounds. In fact, many of our efforts at kindness are harmful because we’re distracted from recognising what prompts our deliberate acts of kindness. Towards ourselves, and towards…
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Do you truly respect yourself?
One of the most important questions you could ever ask yourself in any situation is, ‘Who do you want to be?’ Life is quickly defined or tainted by who we think others deserve us to be. We start out believing, often with good reason, that we need to be a certain way so that we…
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Own your own life first
The causes that we’re afraid to fight in our own lives, we fight through proxy in someone else’s life. When we lack the conviction to apply ourselves to full effect in our own lives, we pacify our conscience by coming to the aid of those whose struggles offer an opportunity for us to find significance…
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Trading in human suffering
When we set out to give someone a voice or to create a platform for them, we create a crutch for them. Just like our voice is ours to claim, so is theirs. When we slip into silence, usually from self-pity, we allow others to speak on our behalf, and then complain if they don’t…