Stop judging. Be human.

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This meme showed up on my timeline earlier and highlighted everything that is wrong with the way in which we treat each other.

There are a few terms that I generally disagree with (sometimes very strongly) if used to describe people.

These terms include broken, damaged, toxic, and basically anything that reduces a human to a single repulsive notion.

We lose our humanness when we see someone’s bad behaviour and assume that to be the totality of who they are.

No one is toxic. We may have destructive behaviours, or dysfunctional perspectives and so on. But that doesn’t make us toxic.

It makes us a human that is struggling to find our humanness in the absence of understanding or compassion from someone significant.

What’s more ‘toxic’? A single person that is allowed to define the tone of an entire family, or a family that lacks any conviction in their own self-worth to be defined by a single person?

Enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, not only when it’s fashionable or easy, but especially when it’s difficult.

If we give up our ability to create good with those around us, we lose our right to complain about them letting us down.

If someone is angry or bitter, they’re feeling unappreciated.

Reduce a person’s sincere efforts towards fulfilling their part in a relationship to nothing more than duty and minimum expectation, and you’ll very quickly inspire ‘toxic’ behaviour on their part.

Drop the labels and start seeing the human behind the behaviour.

There will come a time when you will need others to show you the same empathy and compassion.

Just because you’re struggling to strike a balance between enabling bad behaviour versus understanding it doesn’t mean that the bad behaviour is toxic. It just means that you are not equipped or are not the right person to influence the positive change that you’d like to see in them.

Stop judging. Be human.

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