Tag: self awareness

  • Psssst, guess what?

    Psssst, guess what?

    The universe is not waiting to serve you. It’s time to own your shit.

    “Expecting life to treat you well because you’re a good person is like expecting a bull not to charge at you because you’re a vegetarian.” (Unknown)

    This is my favourite quote whenever I come across someone that feels defeated because they were expecting the good that they do to be returned to them by ‘the universe’. I think it’s exceptionally arrogant to believe that the universe is actively conspiring to treat us well, or treat us badly, because of what we send forth. No. There are manipulators and con artists that get good to come their way all the time despite using everyone else as pawns in their game of life. And then when one bad thing happens to them, people are quick to jump on that karma bandwagon. So, let me get this straight…a lifetime of unethical and underhanded behaviour is repaid by a single event of loss or tragedy, and that’s supposed to be karma? No. It’s life. We are only ever good at what we set our minds to. If there was true justice in this world, we wouldn’t have the kind of problems that we’re facing as humanity. Let’s keep it real. Shall we?

    #thesecret #whatgoesaroundcomesaround

  • The Beauty of Defeat – PechaKucha Style

    The Beauty of Defeat – PechaKucha Style

    A PechaKucha style presentation format that I presented in front of a live audience at a bookstore in Johannesburg, South Africa. I discuss the beauty of defeat, and why moments that appear to deflate us should be embraced, rather than blocked out.
  • It’s time to rethink mental health

    It’s time to rethink mental health

    The human experience is not an illness. Protect your mental health. Don’t allow your reality to be labelled as something other than what it is. It is your experience of the ups and downs in your life. When you find yourself with more bad days than good days, it’s because you need to do something differently. Mental health is about hope. The more hope we have for experiencing joy tomorrow, the better our mental health today. When you find hope is scarce, or difficult to hold onto, reconnect with your passion and your principles, and trust that it’s not hope that dies, but just our distracted state that makes it difficult for us to sometimes find. Gently clear away the distractions, and reconnecting with hope will come naturally.

  • Believing in yourself

    Believing in yourself

    Confidence comes from caring less about what others think of you, and caring more about what you think of yourself.

    The question is, do you know yourself well enough to have an informed opinion of yourself?

    When we rely on others for more than just feedback and instead allow them to validate who we are, we essentially give them the power to define how we feel about ourselves.

    Listening to what others think of you must be done with one single focus in mind. It must be with the objective of determining whether or not the message that you intended was in fact the message that they received.

    But, that means that you must know what your message is.

    What is your unique contribution?

    Self awareness shifts your focus from being aware of how others see you, to being aware of how you want to be seen.

    Once you improve your awareness of the way you want others to see you, within the context of your unique contribution, you’ll begin to accept input from others as feedback on that path that you’ve chosen for yourself, instead of using their input to define your path in the first place.

    It’s a subtle but critical difference, and the difference could be sanity and peace, versus going crazy looking for validation from people who themselves have yet to accept who they are.

    Choose wisely.

  • Insomnia, Anxiety, Mental Clutter – Be gone

    Insomnia, Anxiety, Mental Clutter – Be gone

    Here’s a technique that I developed many years ago when insomnia was a friend of mine. I’ve since found it to be very effective for not just insomnia, but also for anxiety, mental clutter, or just overall peace of mind. When you feel anxious or frustrated, or if you’re struggling to focus, try this out and let me know how it works for you.

    This technique is discussed in more detail in my book titled Own Your Sh!t.

  • She got chills just hearing about the book

    She got chills just hearing about the book

    Watch this 30 second clip of how this lady responded to one of my readers describing the power of assumptions and the way it is covered in the book. Connecting to real people and helping them to rediscover the hope and joy in their lives is exactly what Own Your Shit is all about. It’s not a cynic’s view of the world. It’s honest, simple, and radically fresh insights into why you are who you are. Get your copy now on Amazon, Kindle, and other online retailers. Or from my website for South African readers.
  • Own Your Sh!t Released!

    Own Your Sh!t Released!

    Just be happy. It could be worse. Don’t take life so seriously. Are you tired of hearing this? Well-meaning friends and colleagues tell us to stay positive, but it often has the opposite effect.

    Don’t be misled into thinking that happiness is just a choice. If it were, there would be no sad people. Getting a grip on your emotions is crucial for recovery from heartbreak, trauma, abandonment, and many other trials. Break the cycle of feeling overwhelmed by what happens to you.

    Own Your Sh!t is a book that helps you to understand why you feel sad, depressed or angry about life. It doesn’t tell you to overcome it by asking you to do what worked for someone else, because you’re not someone else.

    So, stop judging yourself so harshly, or allowing others to do the same. Let this book guide you out of that toxic space and into a better version of you. It’s time to own your sh!t.

    The book is available on Kindle, and Kindle Unlimited, and will soon be released on Amazon for paperback orders. Readers in South Africa can order directly from me at a special launch price of R149 which includes free shipping to any major city in the country.

    Watch my blog for snippets from the book in the coming days and weeks.

    MORE INFO ON THE BOOK
  • Optimism versus Reality

    Optimism versus Reality

    Positivity is about focusing on opportunities, not about wishing away reality.

    Wishing it’s a sunny day when it’s raining is not going to make the sun come out. So leaving your umbrella behind is an act of foolishness, not optimism. A positive mindset can often lead us into delusional states. When our overbearing sense of deliberate positivity doesn’t produce results, it crushes our spirit even more than before we started because the little hope we were holding onto becomes more difficult to believe in.

    Keep it real.