We find ourselves in a state of duress, or stress, when we lose sight of what we can influence, whi fee helpless in the face of everything that we think is out of our control.
Whenever we’re faced with a problem, we either focus on mitigating the impact of the problem on us, or we focus on the opportunities to overcome the problem.
When we convince ourselves that the problem is bigger than us, and we also believe that walking away from it is not an option, or possible, we slip into a victim state of mind that weighs us down.
As a side note, whenever something appears impossible to resolve, it means that we have gaps in our understanding about what’s causing it to occur.
At that point, we should set out to seek a better understanding of the problem, rather than persisting in trying to find an answer with the limited information that we have.
This is the kind of thinking that needs to be applied when we’re faced with challenges in our lives.
The most common reason for feeling overwhelmed by life is because the assumptions that we made over the years about our significance or our ability to influence important relationships have grown to become the truths by which we live.
So we don’t even think of questioning those assumptions, despite circumstances having changed over the years, and more importantly, despite us having grown over the same period.
Becoming aware of these assumptions that we make when trying to solve any problem is the first critical step towards searching for answers.
But, mindfulness is needed to regain such perspective, and mindfulness is lost to the victim mindset.
The victim mindset is one that leaves us feeling defensive, or defenseless. Reclaiming your ability to positively influence the outcomes of your life then becomes the important problem to solve.
It always starts with you.
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The enemy of mindfulness
