The need to be pacified about the struggles of our life is an indication of how much or how little we believe in ourselves to rise above it.
When we lose sight of our contribution towards our current state, we surrender to destiny or fate, and wait to be saved or celebrated for how strong we are for persevering.
Meanwhile, our inaction at changing, or breaking the cycles in which we’re caught, reflects our self-worth more than it reflects our bravery or resilience.
When the oppressed or the abused remain submissive, they choose to live with shame rather than fight with dignity.
That fight doesn’t have to be confrontational. Especially when we are physically incapable of subduing the other.
However, understanding what we’re doing to feed the cycle that is harming us is the beginning of changing what we contribute to such cycles.
This is not victim blaming. This is victim empowering.
The difference being that we don’t blame the victim for the oppressor’s actions, but we encourage the victim to reclaim their voice and their dignity, which in turn reduces the validation that the oppressor or abuser gains from their abuse.
Understanding the cycle is therefore paramount to effective action.
Action without understanding is like gambling with your life.
Seek to understand before you surrender to your reality.
Otherwise you’ll go through life believing you’re trapped, while not realising that there was always an exit strategy available to you.
It always starts with you.
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Woe is me…or is it?
