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Don’t burn your own hands

The logic of this is quite obvious, yet we do it, don’t we?

Sometimes we find it difficult to apologise because we’re afraid that others will think less of us. It feels like a weakness. So we protect ourselves from appearing weak.

At other times, we find it difficult to apologise because we feel unappreciated. So our offensive behaviour was our way of getting justice for having been treated badly or taken for granted.

The same reasons that would drive our resistance to admitting fault is what drives others to avoid doing right by us.

Problems arise when we lose sight of why we expect that much more from them, or worse, why we may be holding them to a standard that is unfair to who they are.

Sometimes we grow tired of being taken for granted at home, so we lash out at hints of being taken for granted at work. And vice versa.

Similarly, when our parents may have treated us as insignificant, we end up lashing out at our partners because we fear growing insignificant with them as well.

That’s how we do the right thing for the wrong reasons. Or why we find it difficult to do the right thing when we know better.

We complicate life when we lose sight of what we’re dealing with in the moment because we don’t realise that we’re waiting for justice about something that is long gone and forgotten, or unrelated to who we’re with now. .

Invest in your past, or invest in your present. The choice you make is what determines what you’re investing in your future.

Emotional mindfulness is key to creating a fulfilled life.

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Zaid Ismail

Author, life coach, and mental health activist. We need to change the narrative from disorders, illnesses, and survival to accountability, understanding, and thriving.

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