You know that feeling that you get when you see someone say or do something and you just know they’re talking nonsense?
That’s because they lack authenticity.
But when you get that feeling and they actually do follow through with what they say and do, and they mean it, then you lack authenticity because you were projecting your insecurities on them.
Sounds harsh?
If it does, you’re approaching life from a position of judgement, rather than growth.
No one does that deliberately.
NO ONE. NOT EVEN YOU.
So when you find yourself or others living with a disconnect between who they are and what they say, understand that they’re compensating for an insecurity that they may not be aware of.
And again, the same applies to ourselves when our behaviour is inconsistent with our values.
Blaming others for giving you reason to behave badly further erodes your authenticity, no matter how principled you may be in every other sphere of your life.
The reality is, we’re responsible for the choices we make, whether it relates to how we’re being treated, or how we’re responding to the behaviour of others.
If life is about wanting to be better than who we were yesterday, each time we get something wrong, we’ll be inspired to try again until we get it right.
If not, we’ll need distractions like substance abuse, or other unhealthy addictive behaviours including mind altering medications.
Alcohol, drugs, and other mind altering substances are not just innocent pastimes.
They’re a need to escape what you’re not willing to embrace because you’re judging yourself based on how someone else treated you.
Not necessarily the person you’re with.
The price that you pay, and the price that innocent people pay as a result of your need to cope or escape, is not worth it.
Step up. Face your demons. And if needed, get help.
The evidence is clearly against any excuses that you might make.
Your life doesn’t have to be an escape from your past.
It can be amazing because of it.
It always starts with you.
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